The Seven Places That Will Set You Sexually Free

Made Perfect in Purity

We wrap up our study on being Made Perfect in Purity today. We started off in the Old Testament by defining what purity is, we studied Prov 5, 6, and 7 and heard the tenderness of our Heavenly Father. We then moved to the New Testament and looked at the incredible story of Jesus and the woman who was caught in adultery. Now we get to see how all of this comes together to a fantastic conclusion.

I mentioned several days ago that Jesus knows the pain and shame that goes with your sexual sin. Today we learn how He did that.

In today’s podcast, We’ll learn…

  1. Why Jesus is called the “Lamb of God” who is the only one who can take away sin.
  2. Why Jesus bled from seven places for our lack of purity.
  3. What a lesson like this should drive us to do in response.


Worship is indeed the only thing that we can do when we see and feel the weight/gravity of what the Lord Jesus Christ has done in our lives. Worship and gratefulness and thankfulness.

I love preaching that message because as I go through those seven places, I have the incredible privilege of having a front row seat to watch the Lord set people free by the power of the Holy Spirit. People’s eyes just well up with tears and God lets them know that they are indeed forgiven and free.

How about you? Have you come to the place where the chains have been broken, and you’re not carrying around the baggage of sexual sin anymore? If not, why? Do you think it’s not possible? Or is it that you still love your sin too much?

Neither Do I

Made Perfect in Purity

Are you getting a better idea of what the word “purity” truly means? Well, I pray that the Lord continues to teach you in this area of purity and holiness as we press on with our discussion of how God makes us Perfect in Purity.

We’ve been reading in Proverbs for the last several days studying chapters 5, 6 and 7 which is part of the Old Testament. Today we move to the New Testament and ask the question, How exactly did Jesus handle people who were sexual sinners? Did He yell at them and shame them?

In today’s podcast, We’ll discuss several things:

  1. How and why the Church distances itself from sexual sinners.
  2. How Jesus upholds the OT law for adultery AND at the same time, ushers in NT grace.
  3. How Jesus is not just the Lord of lords and the Kings of kings, but also the Groom of grooms.

Final Thoughts:
Isn’t that amazing? How Jesus treats people? The way Jesus handles the questions from the pastors, priests, and ministers of His day, to the young proud arrogant self-righteous men holding those stones who just can’t wait to kill someone in the name of OT law, to our main character of this story – the woman caught in adultery.

Better yet, isn’t it amazing how Jesus treats you? If I may, please allow me to ask you some probing questions today:

  • Do you realize or recognize how good you have it?
  • Have you thanked God for your health? What about the things you take for granted every day like the food in the fridge, the gas in the car an the roof over your head.
  • Have you thanked him for your job and the ability to make a living?
  • What about your spouse, friends, and family….no matter how messed up they are?

I gotta tell ya, I love this story of the woman caught in adultery, and I pray that as you read it and re-read it that the Lord reveals new and amazing things each time you do. I also pray that as he reveals His amazing truths to you, that you start to love others just a fraction of how much He loves you. If we call ourselves a Christian we are to love God and to love people and we love people by putting them first, no matter the cost to us.

Lastly, I realize that many of you may be thinking not about the woman caught in adultery, but the man who wasn’t there. Did that strike a chord with you personally? Maybe you could see yourself in his absence. What happened to him? Did he run away or did the religious leaders let him go? Did those two ever talk again? If so what did they say to one another?

I want you to know that I was once that man, myself. A coward who ran from all of life’s responsibilities and relationships. And if wasn’t for Jesus I would still be that man. What changed me? Jesus, through the power of the local church. Jesus, through the community of godly men in my life. What changed me was Jesus through a new life in Him.

The apostle Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 5:17:
This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!

God is a God of a Thousand Do-Overs!

Made Perfect in Purity

On Friday we started a new series on sexual purity. We looked at several examples, like what happens when you put bad fuel in your gasoline tank and how that makes your car spit, knock and sputter; how what happens when you download a virus to your computer.

So we defined purity as nothing mixed in. It’s a foreign substance; it’s an enemy. And we applied that definition to our spiritual and sexual lives.

Jesus talks about not mixing anything into our sexual lives in Matthew 5:27-28.
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

Most of read that passage and immediately feel condemned because we know that we have failed in this area of our lives at some level. That’s why we looked at the tender words of our Heavenly Father in Proverbs 5. Today we continue listening to those tender words from our Father in Prov 6 and 7.

In today’s podcast, We’ll discuss several things:

  1. What do you treasure about life? What do you do with it?
  2. What does it really mean to live? Especially after we have sinned sexually?
  3. The Importance of teaching healthy sexuality

Aren’t those incredibly healing words from our Heavenly Father? He knows the pain that sexuality has brought in our lives. And He even understands the shame…we’ll talk about that later in this lesson.

Ya know, we all have the same story. It goes something like this, “I was once blind, but now I see”. And the only way we can see is because God chose by grace and through love to reveal himself to us, through His Word and His Son.

But what if you can’t see right now. What if things are so messy because of the choices that you made that you can’t tell up from down. How do you respond when the decisions that you have made have hurt so many people – and it’s so interesting that we hurt the very people that we say we love the most.

Well, I know that’s a painful place, but it’s also a beautiful place. To come to the end of your resources and strength and so-called wisdom is a very good place because this is where you get to learn who God really is, and who you truly are as well.

My encouragement to you is to get facedown on the floor every morning before you start your day and pray for God’s mercy and wisdom in your life and then cling to Him with all that you have – your entire being, cling to the Lord Jesus Christ and continue to walk with Him. Never give up.

Made Perfect in Purity

When you hear the word “purity,” what do you think of? If you didn’t grow up in the church, is it an old-fashioned, outdated term to you? If did you grew up in the Church you may think of like a “purity ring.” Regardless, my guess is that it brings to mind something to do with sex or abstinence from sex. But here’s my question, is that definition correct?

In this series, I teach on the subject of purity, what it is and what it means to you and how to apply it to your whole life – not just in the area of sexuality. I want you to think holiness. God is holy. The prophet Isiah writes in Chapter 6:

It was in the year King Uzziah died that I saw the Lord. He was sitting on a lofty throne, and the train of his robe filled the Temple. 2 Attending him were mighty seraphim, each having six wings. With two wings they covered their faces, with two they covered their feet, and with two they flew.  They were calling out to each other,
“Holy, holy, holy is the Lord of Heaven’s Armies!
The whole earth is filled with his glory!”

The Lord is holy. He is different. The word holiness there it means he is “like no other”. And as His sons and daughters, we are to resemble and look like our Father, so.

In today’s podcast, We’ll discuss several things:

  1. What exactly is purity?
  2. What does it mean to “bend your ear” and why that’s important
  3. Why is our Heavenly Father giving us an incredibly power disclaimer in Proverbs 5 before He reveals His truth about purity?

Of course, you guys already knew that committing adultery is a bad idea, but don’t you love the way our Heavenly Father starts this discussion on purity. He knows how uncomfortable this topic is for us. He knows the shame and the guilt that go along with our mistakes. He also knows that everybody at some level in all of human history is broken when it comes to sexuality. And that’s why He is so tender as He starts this discussion.

Tomorrow we’ll see how He does the same thing with Proverbs six and seven as we continue our lesson on how the Lord makes us perfect in purity.

Now many of you are listening right now may be thinking….man, I’m not even close to being pure. Okay, well, just so ya know I’ve been there and felt that way for two very long decades myself so that I can relate. But let me ask you this – “what’s stopping you from being pure today?” Have you believed the lie that this purity stuff and that the Bible is only good for other people and not for you? My friend that is a lie.

Your tomorrow can be very different. You don’t have to feel the weight and the shame of your past any longer. Jesus Christ did not shed his blood on a Roman wooden cross, die the most painful death in all of history, conquer sin and death by walking out of His own grave… for you to stay an addicted Christian!

It is for freedom that Jesus Christ set you free! So what is holding you back? Is waking up in the morning and holding your head high just a pipe dream? Is looking into the eyes of a beautiful woman and not other body parts impossible?

It is – apart from Jesus.

Over my 20 years of being a porn and sex addict, and now my 13 years of being sexually sober, I’ve learned that there must be a structure to my life. A structure that dictates purpose.

So if you are feeling those things, if you are feeling helpless and hopeless, let me encourage you to do something different right now. Let me introduce a structure that will help renew your mind with scripture that focuses on God’s design for sexual purity.

The War on the Ordinary Family

An Introduction to the Theology of the Human Body

Yesterday we talked about how our personal view of gender is crucial to how we minister to others. That was a great conversation as we wrap up our introduction to the Theology of the Human Body today. In this lesson, we discuss what this conversation is really about, why it can be so hostile, and why it’s crucial for Christians to engage.

In today’s podcast, We’ll discuss several things:

  1. Why this conversation is not really about your beliefs as a Christian but rather a revolt against God Himself.
  2. What is Objective reality vs. subjective fantasy?
  3. Is the LGBT, the fight for their rights and sexual freedom today, the same fight that black men and women fought for in the 1960’s?

If you are a church leader and you do not have policies in place regarding this sexual revolution that we are in, I pray that you make it a priority this week. If you need someone to facilitate this discussion with your church leadership, let me encourage you to jump on the website at Dustin Daniels Dot Org and send me an email, and I can help facilitate that discussion. Because these are serious questions:

  1. What are you going to do when members of an LBGT organization demands to be married in your church?
  2. What are you going to do when transgender people demand to use the bathroom that corresponds with their gender identity.
  3. Are these things incorporated into your bylaws?

I pray that you do and if you don’t, email me so we can start working on that.

Ministering and Loving our LGBT Friends

An Introduction to the Theology of the Human Body

We are three days into our study of gender. It’s been an introduction to the Theology of the Human Body. Yesterday we talked quite a bit about Bruce Jenner, the most well known transgender person of our day. Today our conversation transitions into how we minister to our LGBT friends. In today’s lesson, we hear a lot of questions and comments from the class, and it turned out to be a great discussion.

In today’s podcast, We’ll discuss several things:

  1. The way we view gender is crucial to how we minister to others
  2. How and why we choose to fill our God-sized hole in our hearts with everything but Jesus.
  3. The topic of judging our LBGT friends.

We’re all broken, but the reality is that some of us just hide it better than others. I think we could also make an argument that the more outlandish someone is, the more desperate they are looking for Jesus. They just don’t know that they are trying to fill that God-sized hole in their heart with all these temporary earthly things.

Tomorrow we wrap our study on the Theology of the human body with our gender study. And we discuss what this cultural battle is.

Call Me Caitlyn? A Conversation About Bruce Jenner

An Introduction to the Theology of the Human Body

We are on day three of our series dealing with the Theology of the Human body. Yesterday we discussed how the male and female body was designed by God to bring Him glory. We also talked about how when we tinker with the God’s plan of gender and sexuality we are tinkering with human existence. So, we continue our discussion on the subject of gender, and it moves to the most well-known spokesperson on transgenderism – Bruce Jenner.

In today’s podcast, We’ll discuss several things:

  1. Are their differences between the male and female brain?
  2. Do men and women think, ponder and communicate differently?

I find it so fascinating that the people that Jesus hung out within the Gospels are the types of people that scare Church people! We tend to think that if people don’t walk, talk or look like us; then they’ll have to go somewhere else. Shame on us. The Apostle Paul says it this way in Gal 3:26:

For you are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus. 27 And all who have been united with Christ in baptism have put on Christ, like putting on new clothes. There is no longer Jew or Gentile, slave or free, male and female. For you are all one in Christ Jesus. 

The Importance of Gender Theology

An Introduction to the Theology of the Human Body

Last week we started a brand new series on the topic of the Theology of the Human Body. We started our discussion off on the specific subject of gender. BTW, that phrase is interesting, isn’t it? –  The Theology of the Body. It’s a series of writings from Pope John Paul II. If you are interested in learning more on this topic, I will point you to a colleague of mine, Christopher West. He is an expert in that area, and you can visit him at

Today, we continue our series on gender. And we take a lengthy look at the importance of Theology. The study of God with our emphasis on the human body.

In today’s podcast, We’ll discuss several things:

  1. The four mysteries of the human body
  2. How Christianity is very different in its theology toward the human body.
  3. What is the hypostatic union?

If you were Satan, wouldn’t you want to blur the lines of all things sexual? To make hazy the ways that men and women complement one another. Wouldn’t you want to confuse the definition of what marriage truly is? Of course. That’s why it is so important to realize that when we talk about the subjects of homosexuality, gender identity or transgender issues, we do it thoughtfully, carefully, and with respect. Regardless if they’re disrespectful to us.

It doesn’t work well when we demand Christian morals from those who are not Christians. We are to lift people up with the Bible not beat them down with them. I’m horrified when I hear people quoting something like 1 Corinthians 6:9 to unbelievers:

Don’t you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, 10 or are thieves, or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people—none of these will inherit the Kingdom of God.

When I hear this, I want people to read the next verse.

Some of you were once like that. But you were cleansed; you were made holy; you were made right with God by calling on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

So look guys, I know this is a messy issue, and I want to encourage you in the messiness. To once again, ask yourself, why do you believe what you believe and then can you explain it in love.

The Audacity of a Genderless Society

An Introduction to the Theology of the Human Body

Today, we start a brand new series. And we are going to dive right into the deep waters of the secular pool here as we look at gender. I give a relatively quick overview of what’s happening in the culture from Hollywood, to department stores – evidently, they have something to say on this issue, the Boy Scouts of America is changing policies because apparently the word “boy” is now offensive.

In today’s podcast, We’ll discuss several things:

  1. How did this issue of gender become so complicated?
  2. Why is it so complicated?
  3. Why should you care?

Isn’t it amazing how, when there is no absolute standard from God, how complicated we as a society, government, educational institutions can make things? Think about it, God in His Word tells from the very beginning that He created people both male and female (Gen. 1:27). There are no other options.

So why are people demanding that they are? It’s called sin. We do not want to admit that there is an all powerful and all knowing God who in perfect truth and wisdom has created a complete order and structure to this world. The Apostle Paul in Romans 1:20 says it this way.
For ever since the world was created, people have seen the earth and sky. Through everything God made, they can clearly see his invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature. So they have no excuse for not knowing God. Yes, they knew God, but they wouldn’t worship him as God or even give him thanks. And they began to think up foolish ideas of what God was like. As a result, their minds became dark and confused. 22 Claiming to be wise, they instead became utter fools. 23 And instead of worshiping the glorious, ever-living God, they worshiped idols made to look like mere people and birds and animals and reptiles.

God calls this mess with gender identity foolish. Think deeply about this. What would happen if you walked into a hospital and told them that you wanted a job because identified as a surgeon? Or walked into a bank, gave the teller a $10 bill and said to her that you identify that bill as a $100 bill. Or went to Washington DC and told the administration that you identified as the President? What would happen? They would haul you off and have you committed to psychiatric help. And yet we are doing the same exact thing with gender. Our government is even passing laws regarding gender.

So, from a Biblical perspective, what do we do as Christians? Pick a fight? Nope, the battle is already on. I would encourage you to have this conversation deepen your belief structure on these issues. Why do you believe what you say you believe? And here’s the thing, can you confidently and calmly explain your Bible-based belief structure in love and not condemnation? Can you explain the Biblical perspective that they can’t understand? That’s what I would encourage you to do because this conversation is not going away.

What To Do After The Fall-Out of Sexual Sin?

Reflections Within the Diary of my Darkest Days

Today we wrap our series on Proverbs 5. It has been a reflection within the diary of my darkest days, as you have heard me share some personal stories from my life – things not to do – that’s for sure.

We also read Proverbs 5 verse by verse and discussed what the Lord has to say about sexual sin. Surprisingly, we heard the tenderness of a Father giving us a strict warning. He then turned into a Prophet, and out of love, He told us exactly what will happen if we didn’t run away from the adulteress.

It’s so interesting as just today, I was listening to an old sermon from J. Vernon McGee as he was preaching out of Revelation 16 & 17, and he said this – that “sex and false religion are related.” I find that fascinating because Dr. McGee died in 1988. And when we look at the correlation between sex and false religion, sex and everybody’s individual rights in our culture, we see that to be more and truer today than ever.

All that to say, if you are attending a church that is preaching anything besides Gen 2:24 when it comes to marriage and sexuality, I would encourage you to run. It is a false religion. Genesis 2:24 is one biological man and one biological woman in a covenant relationship called marriage. Sex and marriage are two sides of the same coin.

But I digress.

In today’s podcast, We’ll discuss several things:

  1. Why you should confess your sexual sin
  2. How the blood of Jesus cleanses you from your sexual sin
  3. What to do after you have confessed your sexual sin

Final Thoughts:

Let’s make this personal. Do you have sin to confess, but don’t have someone to confess it to?Well, I would encourage you to pray and ask the Lord who that person is. If you’re married, it needs to be your spouse. Sooner or later she is going to find out; the Lord promises that in Scripture. Most likely, she already knows something’s wrong. She may not know precisely what it is, but she probably knows something is not right. And believe me when I say that it’s always better to confess it, rather than getting caught and her finding out that way.

Now, I would suggest you be pro-active and find a Christ-centered counselor to facilitate that conversation. It will be a life-changing conversation, and yes it will hurt. And it should hurt, because you have hurt many people through your disobedience. But I can tell you from experience that when you confess and bring all this darkness out into the light, God will honor that, and He will change your life forever.