A One Man Band

...and I Can't Even Play Air Guitar

Have you ever seen a one man band?  Someone on the street trying to make a living by playing every single instrument known to man at the same time….usually poorly.


Well…all that to say, I’m feeling like a one man band these days.  This ministry is small as it gets. It’s just me performing all the daily operations with the backing of my Board of Directors.  So in other words,  I’m a guy who has way too many instruments chained to my back, and I can’t play any of them, let alone sing.  I’ve been asked to quit singing in the shower, if you know what I mean.

If you are a regular listener to this podcast, you might have noticed that I haven’t produced any podcasts in a week, and this is supposed to be a daily discipleship podcast focusing on healthy sexuality.  I need to ask your forgiveness, it wasn’t my intent to get behind  But I do want to share with you what’s going on for the next month or so.

By God’s grace, Ambassador International will be publishing my first book. It’s called The Sex Spiral: Forgiven and Free From Pornography. I’m currently on the second draft and the publisher has given me deadlines to submit this draft in time for the fall release.

So with that being said, I need to put this podcast on hold for a month or so.  In that time, can I ask a favor?  Will you please pray for this ministry and podcast?  Please pray for wisdom – and that God would continue to do whatever it takes in my life to become like Jesus.

Lastly, I could also use your financial support to keep the mission of the ministry going.  The great news is that we have received a $7,500 matching grant from the Mission Increase Foundation.  This means that every dollar you give, it get’s doubled!  This is our first matching grant so it’s very exciting. Would you please prayerfully consider giving a one time donation of any amount or even becoming a Purity Partner with us? A purity partner is $30 per month – only one dollar per day – but with the grant as a new donor, it get’s doubled!

Visit SevenPlaces.org and click on donate.  Make sure you click on the drop down that says “Matching Grant!  Mail a check to Seven Places Ministries, P.O. Box 73275 Phx, AZ 85050

Well, that’s the plan for the next month.  I’ll be working hard on getting this book to the publisher while you pray for it.  Sound good?   If you are new to the podcast let me recommend starting at the very beginning of the podcast with show number 1 for the next month or so.  There are now over two hundred episodes. Those shows have great guests on them that

Once again, thanks for listening to God, Sex and You! I love you and will see you back here in the next month or so.

So Much For Being Politically Correct

Meet My New Friend John

I was sitting at a coffee shop last week (just minding my own business) being anti-social like normal. There was a gentlemen in his mid sixties sitting across from me and we both had our heads buried in our laptops. An older gentlemen then sat down next to me. He waited about sixty seconds before he started with polite conversation.

The polite conversation went from boring table talk to an unconventional religious and political discussion in a matter of nano-seconds. My new friend John, said, “What the **** is going on with all this blankety blank bathroom and gender stuff?”

At this point, I unburied my head and looked up. He looked at me and asked, “You okay?” I responded, “Oh yeah, I want to hear what you have to say about all this.”

John was 85 years old and fought on the front lines in the Korean War. He was a medic and said, “When people got half their face blown off or lost an arm or leg, I was the first guy responsible for getting them to safety. I personally put hundreds of young men in body bags.”

Then John said, “I fought for my country back then because this used to be a great country…a country worth fighting for. How is it that this same country is passing laws so that my granddaughters now have to grow up and use the same bathroom with men who think their women? What the *****?!”

Needless to say, I REALLY enjoyed our conversation. I learned about the heart of a hero that day. Someone who was on the front line of the Korean War to protect our freedom. He asked what I did for a living. “A pastor”, I replied. He smiled. “What are the chances that I would be having this conversation with a preacher?” He laughed out loud, got up and left.

If I were to see John again, I would first of all, thank him for his service. Secondly, I would share with him that I’m not just a preacher, but someone who has dedicated my life to protect his granddaughters from what’s currently going on with this sexual revolution we are currently living in.

I must admit however, this fight is lonely. Not many people want to join me in it. It’s too weird – it’s too scary. Most who do have left. There are times that I want to give up too. I tell myself that the work is too hard, it’s too lonely, and there is certainly not enough resources. But here’s the thing…I know that I can’t…I must continue this work God has given. So I’m not, and I press on another day.

I could use your help though. One way to protect John’s granddaughters is to pray and fund this ministry. Would you consider that? People are spending $3,100 per second viewing pornography. Many of them being Christian. Think about this…by the time you’re done reading this post (around five minutes) people around the globe have spent $930,000.00 on pornography.

Now, by God’s grace I do have some good news. We have received a $7,500 matching grant from the Mission Increase Foundation. This means that every dollar you give is doubled as a first time donor. This money is going toward two initiatives:

The publication of my first book by Ambassador International. It’s titled, “The Sex Spiral: Forgiven and Free From Pornography.”

The launch of our new website. It’s a new home base for men, women, husbands, wives, single, married, divorced, teenagers and grandparents to learn about healthy sexuality from a Biblical perspective.
The great news is that both of these initiatives are 80% done! The book is currently in the editing stage and will be released in the fall. The website is 45 days from going live as well. The $15,000 from this matching grant will go to finalize these projects.

If you have never supported the purity ministry of Seven Places, would you consider today? You can click here to give a one time gift or join us as a monthly purity partner. No donation is too small. Once again, your donation as a first time donor is doubled.

If you prefer to write a check, our address is:
Seven Places
P.O. Box 73275
Phoenix, AZ 85050

Thank you SOOO much!

Side Effects of the Sexual Revolution

There is no telling what healing would come if we as the Church would actually pray to our Creator God, seek His holy and pure face, and turn from our sexual sin. Can you imagine being forgiven by God for our country’s grievous sins?

If my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sins and restore their land. – 2 Chronicles 7:14

These sins are generational – meaning they are being past down from your grandfather, to your father and now you have a choice to pass it along to your children. Just think how God would restore this land if we chose to turn from our wicked ways? Wow!

Well, I know those are heavy thoughts, and this podcast or the subject of sex is not general conversation most of you want to engage in. But I believe God does want you to join in this conversation by learning where America has been and where she is heading tomorrow. After all, there are legal decisions that are being made today dealing with sexuality and your faith that will affect you, your children and grandchildren.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss three things:

  1. Why we’re numb to the word, “abortion”.
  2. Why homosexuality is no longer classified as a disease or disorder from the American Psychiatric Association.
  3. Why Christian counselors have an ethics target on their back.

How & Why The Birth Pill Controlled Changed America

The Sexual Revolution Continues

We are living in a sexual revolution. We not only have the cultural elite of entertainment, education, big business and government redefining what marriage and gender roles are, but entire denominations of churches have joined this bandwagon as well.

We see daily news reports of people revolting against God and His sacred design for sex. The culture claims that sexuality is confusing, but God’s Word is crystal clear in Genesis 2:24,

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Today, we continue our study on the timeline of America’s sexual revolution. Our focus today is the birth control pill. How did the pill change the way American’s live? How did the pill change the way we think about sex? How did it change the way we view God? What do you think?

In today’s podcast, We’ll discuss three things:

  1. Who is and who has the final authority on moral sexuality?
  2. How do you engage in this conversation with someone who doesn’t believe in God?
  3. How are the birth control pill and pornography related?

How Did America Get Here?

Legalizing “Same-Sex” Marriage

In his book, Fathered By God, John Eldredge talks about the six stages of the masculine journey: Boyhood, Cowboy, Warrior, Lover, King and the Sage.

Within today’s podcast you’ll hear some references to this book. By the way, if you have never heard or read this book, I highly recommend it. Especially if you are a father raising sons.

This podcast is part two of a series titled, “The Sexual Revolution”. It’s a series that I taught at Gateway Seminary. The students just finished their lectures on fatherhood and masculinity and now the class is transitioning into the subject of healthy sexuality.

Today we ask the question,

How Did America Get Here? – Legalizing “Same-Sex” Marriage.

We didn’t get to this point in history over night did we? Nope, so to answer this question we must go back in America’s history a bit – back to the the “roaring 20’s” as a matter of fact.

We talk about a lot of different events fairly quickly during this lesson, so you may want to grab a notebook or journal to make some notes for further study.

In today’s podcast, We’ll discuss three things:

  1. How men get stuck between the Cowboy and Warrior stage of masculinity.
  2. A Brief Timeline of Today’s Sexual Revolution.
  3. How the birth control pill changed everything.

My Introduction to Sexuality

What NOT To Do!

I don’t know about you, but I have literally spent most of my prayer life telling God what to do. As if, the Creator of the Universe – the One Who speaks things into existence from nothing, the One Who splits oceans in half, heals the blind and raises the dead needs any suggestions from yours truly.

In today’s podcast, we are going to start a brand new series titled The Sexual Revolution. This is a teaching that I conducted at Gateway Seminary in Scottsdale, Az. I start this lesson off by discussing THE most important lesson I could ever teach – and that is how to pray by listening to God – it’s called Tithing Our Time.

Secondly, before I start this series, I wanted these students to understand where I was coming from before I started teaching the actual sexuality material. So I begin the lesson by sharing part of my story – how I was personally introduced to sexuality. Maybe some of you will be able to relate, I hope not because it was a very dysfunctional and unhealthy way to be taught about sex. But more importantly, I pray that as I share my story, you will be able to learn from it.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss three things:

  1. How to pray by listening to God.
  2. We’ll touch on a book by John Eldridge called, Fathered By God
  3. How sexual sin makes you really – REALLY – stupid.

Sex After Kids

Grace Based Discipline: How To Be At Your Best When Your Kids Are At Their Worst - Part Five

I had a dad tell me the other day that his kids were ruining his life. He said it with a grin so I knew that he was only half kidding.

I then asked him if he agreed with Psalm 127:3,

Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him.

“Yes”, he said. “It just seems like the reward of children is overwhelming most of the time!”

Do you feel like that? Overwhelmed with the kids, frantic when you get to work and then it seems like you aren’t able to get anything done because your mind is on the kids? Then you rush home to drive the kids all around the city because of their extra curricular activities, and by the time everyone finally gets home for the day it’s 9pm. Needless to say that everyone is hungry, grumpy and tired. Oh, and this is the first time you’ve seen your spouse all day…and he just happens to have that “lovin’ feeling” in the twinkle of his eye.

So, how do you pursue sex with your spouse after having kids? What does sexual intimacy look like during this season of your life? We wrap up our conversation with Karis Kimmel Murray today discussing her new book Grace Based Discipline: How To Be At Your Best When Your Kids Are At Their Worst.

In today’s podcast, We’ll discuss three things:

  1. How sex with your spouse is the culmination of everything else in your life. In other words, how does sex reveal what other things are healthy or unhealthy with your spouse?
  2. Husbands, how sensitive are you to your wife’s sexual needs?
  3. Why it’s important to have Father’s SPEAK into the lives of their daughters.

To Spank or Not To Spank?

Grace Based Discipline: How To Be At Your Best When Your Kids Are At Their Worst - Part Four

When it comes to raising children, one of the most controversial issues parents can discuss is whether or not they should spank their children or not.

Fortunately, God has a lot to say about this:

Don’t fail to discipline your children. The rod of punishment won’t kill them. – Proverbs 23:13

Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them. – Proverbs 13:24

Wow! That seems well, ummm…pretty straight forward. But let’s make sure we don’t take these pieces of scripture out of context. What else does God’s Word have to say about this form of discipline? These passages certainly answer the question as to “why” you should discipline your children, but what about the “when” question.

Well, my guest today has tremendous insight – Godly insight full of grace and truth that every parent should hear. We continue our conversation with Karis Kimmel Murray discussing her new book Grace Based Discipline: How To Be At Your Best When Your Kids Are At Their Worst.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss three things:

  1. The Church’s view on spanking vs. the world’s view.
  2. Is anti-spanking being anti-discipline?
  3. Can you spank your children and still remain inside the realm of grace?

The Difference Between Discipline & Punishment

Grace Based Discipline: How To Be At Your Best When Your Kids Are At Their Worst - Part Three

Do you know the difference between disciplining your children and punishing your children? Maybe a better question is, do your children know the difference?

Today, we continue our conversation with Karis Kimmel Murray on our series of Grace Based Discipline. She has a new book titled, Grace Based Discipline: How To Be At Your Best When Your Kids Are At Their Worst.

In today’s podcast, We’ll discuss four things:

  1. The specific differences between discipline and punishment.
  2. Some of the natural consequences of discipline.
  3. How to set up different categories of rules and violations for your children’s behavior.
  4. How to implement a Family Rules Summit.

How to Separate Your Child From Their Behavior

Grace Based Discipline: How To Be At Your Best When Your Kids Are At Their Worst - Part Two

So there you are, in the checkout aisle of your favorite grocery store and your mission has been successful – groceries without one of the kids creating a scene of any kind…

Well, that is until your six year old sees his favorite candy bar. He asks if he can have it. You politely tell him “no” because you’re getting ready to go home and fix lunch with all the new groceries that are in the cart.

He asks again, this time with a little more whine in his voice. You give him the parental “mom look”. All of a sudden his bottom lip begins to quiver… and “BAM!” Meltdown on aisle three. So close, but yet so far away.

How do you handle those situations? Well, my guest today, Karis Kimmel Murray has some sage advice for those of us that find ourselves in that predicament. She has a new book titled, Grace Based Discipline: How To Be At Your Best When Your Kids Are At Their Worst.

In today’s podcast, We’ll discuss five things:

1) How parents are the “first responders” to your child’s crisis.
2) Introducing the “mental basket” method.
3) The difference between labeling your child and prophesying over your child.
4) How to “tag” your child’s behavior.
5) How to see your child the way God see’s them.