The Definition of Love, Hate and Sexual Sin

Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual and The Church

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.

And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing (1 Corinthians 13).

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.

Have you ever had a conversation to where you thought you were talking about the same thing but turned out that you were discussing two separate things from two different perspectives? Well, I think that kind of conversation is happening quite a bit here lately on the topics of homosexuality, love, lust, and hate. For example, the scripture passage I just read on love could mean a variety of different things if we don’t first define what love is.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, I’ll ask Peter Hubbard, pastor and author of Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual and the Church whether or not Believers and non believers are on the same page with the most basic of things – the words and their definitions – as we discuss the subject of homosexuality

On today’s podcast, we’ll discuss:

  1. Why does the world continue to ask about sexuality and sin?
  2. Is calling sin, “sin”, a motivation for hate?
  3. How we must first begin with a definition of love.


So are you culturally or Biblically selective on how you define love, hate, and sexual sin?

Have you ever defined love in your own words?  The apostle John writes in 1 John 4:8, But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love. So that begs the question doesn’t it, can anyone who doesn’t know God, love? Maybe I should ask it this way, can anyone who doesn’t know Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, truly love?

What about hate? Do you hate the things that God hates?

In Proverbs 6:16, King Solomon writes,

There are six things the Lord hates—no, seven things he detests:

haughty eyes, (proud or defiant eyes) a lying tongue, hands that kill the innocent, a heart that plots evil, feet that race to do wrong, a false witness who pours out lies, a person who sows discord in a family.

Again King Solomon writes in Proverbs 8:13, To fear the LORD is to hate evil; I hate pride and arrogance, evil behavior and perverse speech. So the question becomes, do you hate the things that the Lord hates? Or do you tolerate them in your own life because the world is demanding tolerance?

Lastly, how do you define sexual sin? Scripture tells us in Genesis 2:24, Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. So, do you define marriage and sexuality as God does – two sides of the same coin? What about sexual sin – as anything outside this marriage covenant of one man an one woman?