Addicted to Love

Love Is Patient, But I'm Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist

If you and I were having a cup of coffee and I gave you 60 seconds to write a definition of love, what do you think you would come up with?

Would it list a bunch of emotions and feelings? Would it focus on you or other people? Love is a subject to where all peoples in all tongues since the beginning of time has been infatuated with. In our culture, we are fascinated and addicted to it. Doesn’t this obsession show us the eternal need for something we don’t understand? And because we don’t understand it we mislabel, misuse, abuse and call it things that it is not.

Well, today we are going to look at scripture to give us a definition of love. My guest is Christopher West, a best selling author, speaker, teacher and world-renowned expert on John Paul II’s “Theology of the Body”. This week we get to see a personal side of Christopher with his new book titled, “Love Is Patient, But I’m Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist”.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. Defining love vs describing love.
  2. The difference between love and lust.
  3. How the movie Toy Story 3 has profound truths that are not to be toyed with.


Jesus said in the gospel of John 15:13, “Love each other in the same way I have loved you.  There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

John 3:16, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”

The Apostle Paul writes in Colossians 3:14, “And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.”

The Apostle John writes in 1 John 4:18, “We love because he first loved us.” And again in 1 John 4:8, Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.”

As we search the scriptures on love, we’ll see over and over again that love is a sacrifice. If there is no sacrifice, is it really love?

Here’s my personal definition of love: A loyalty and fidelity that propels us to action for the good of others—no matter the cost to me.

We’ll, tomorrow, we’ll continue our conversation with Christopher West and his new book “Love Is Patient, But I’m Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist”.  We’ll hear a great example and story of how love is not rude and doesn’t get it’s own way.