Why Your Story Is Your Glory

Love Is Patient, But I'm Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist

Many of us know that story – it’s the story of The Fall. It’s how sin entered into mankind. Today, we’ll take a look at this story through the lens of God’s love – the freedom in love – in the midst of Adam and Eve committing the first sin.

Genesis 3 reads,
Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made.
He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?”  And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat of the fruit of the trees in the garden,  but God said, ‘You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the midst of the garden, neither shall you touch it, lest you die.’”  But the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die.  For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”  So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate.

My guest is Christopher West, a best selling author, speaker, teacher and world-renowned expert on John Paul II’s “Theology of the Body”. Todays’ interview comes from Christopher with his new book titled, “Love Is Patient, But I’m Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist”.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. Love respects the freedom of others.
  2. How do we respect someone’s freedom wrongly?
  3. Being educated in the proper use of freedom


The Apostle John writes in 1 John 4:7-18:

Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God.  But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him.  This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.

Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us.

 And God has given us his Spirit as proof that we live in him and he in us. Furthermore, we have seen with our own eyes and now testify that the Father sent his Son to be the Savior of the world.  All who declare that Jesus is the Son of God have God living in them, and they live in God.  We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in his love.

God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them.  And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world.

Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.  We love each other because he loved us first.

So friend, are you learning how to love the way God loves you.  Remember our definition of love from yesterday? Love is A loyalty and fidelity that propels us to action for the good of others—no matter the cost to me.

When we start to catch a glimpse of that kind of love, oh my goodness, you’ll start to see people the way God does.

We’ll, tomorrow, we’ll continue our conversation with Christopher West and his new book “Love Is Patient, But I’m Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist.”  We’ll hear a great story of Christopher, a cab driver and the number of wives each has.