The Miracle of Grace

Love Is Patient, But I'm Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist

What kind of forgiveness is that? What kind of love is that? Jesus, knowing His Father’s plan, was utterly obedient to the point of death.

In the Gospel of Luke chapter 23:26, Luke writes:

As they led Jesus away, a man named Simon, who was from Cyrene, happened to be coming in from the countryside. The soldiers seized him and put the cross on him and made him carry it behind Jesus. A large crowd trailed behind, including many grief-stricken women. Two others, both criminals, were led out to be executed with him. When they came to a place called The Skull, they nailed Jesus to the cross. And the criminals were also crucified—one on his right and one on his left. Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing.”

Well, my guest today is Christopher West. Christopher is going to share some thoughts and stories on this kind of love as we continue discussing, his new book titled, “Love Is Patient, But I’m Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist.”

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. Why real love – true love – God’s love draws us close and yet makes us uncomfortable.
  2. The profound realization that we cause others pain because we’re in pain.
  3. Being able to say hard things when your eyes are full of mercy.


If we want to know how to love – we must look at the life of Jesus Christ.  He was fully human and fully God. He shows us how to love by His words and actions. He shows us how to live and how to die.  He came to serve and not be served.

The Apostle Paul writes in Colossians 1:15

Christ is the visible image of the invisible God. He existed before anything was created and is supreme over all creation, for through him God created everything in the heavenly realms and on earth. He made the things we can see and the things we can’t see—such as thrones, kingdoms, rulers, and authorities in the unseen world. Everything was created through him and for him. He existed before anything else, and he holds all creation together. Christ is also the head of the church, which is his body. He is the beginning, supreme over all who rise from the dead. So he is first in everything. For God in all his fullness was pleased to live in Christ, and through him God reconciled everything to himself.He made peace with everything in heaven and on earth by means of Christ’s blood on the cross.

Tomorrow, we’ll wrap up our conversation with Christopher West and his new book “Love Is Patient, But I’m Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist.”  And if you were paying close attention yesterday, you’ll notice that I promised you a story about Christopher, a cab driver and the number of wives each has.  I know it sounds like a setup for a joke, but it’s not.  Well, we never got to it, did we? I lied, please forgive me, BUT you’ll hear it tomorrow, and it’s a great story so you’ll want to tune and listen.