The Beautiful Reality of Fidelity

Love Is Patient, But I'm Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist

Introducing the great mystery of “bethroyal”.

The prophet Hosea writes in Hosea 2:19-20:
And I will betroth you to me forever. I will betroth you to me in righteousness and in justice, in steadfast love and in mercy. I will betroth you to me in faithfulness. And you shall know the Lord.

The word betroth is something we don’t really hear anymore is it? Betrothal is a promise. It’s the commitment of marriage. Now, you’ve heard the stats on marriage and how Biblical marriage is under attack in our culture, but at the end of the day, do we truly understand what this commitment honestly is?

Well, we are going to wrap up our conversation with my guest today is Christopher West. We have been discussing his new book all week long. It’s titled, “Love Is Patient, But I’m Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist”.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. Why marriage is a foreshadowing of something so much bigger than ourselves.
  2. Why marriage is a spiritual mystery.


The Apostle Paul writes in Ephesians 5:25

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself.  No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body. As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one.

We are familiar with a man being called a husband and a woman his bride, but in this text, we see a great mystery unfolding. The apostle Paul is telling us that Jesus Christ is our Groom, and we, as His Church, are His bride.

Let me give you a really simple (and silly) illustration. Think of it this way: our earthly marriage is like playing baseball for the minor leagues. God is preparing us through testing, trials, and temptations for the major leagues. Ultimately, Christ’s marriage to the Church is playing in the majors. Jesus sets the standard for all marriages. Why? Because Jesus Christ is the perfect Groom!

In other words, Jesus is not just the Lord of lord and the King of kings, He’s also the Groom of grooms.

He just happens to be married to an imperfect bride (that’s us). Therefore, our physical marriages here on earth are much more important than we think. Marriage is teaching us a spiritual reality that we see in Revelation 19:6b-8: “Praise the Lord! For the Lord our God, the Almighty, reigns. Let us be glad and rejoice, and let us give honor to Him. For the time has come for the wedding feast of the Lamb, and His bride has prepared herself.”

Next week we are going to do something fun, we’re going to look in our rear view mirror on some amazing guests that I’ve had over the past six years.