The Beauty of Our Bodies

21 Days To Sexual Purity

Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body (1 Corinthians  6:18).


Again Paul writes in Romans 1:24

So God abandoned them to do whatever shameful things their hearts desired. As a result, they did vile and degrading things with each other’s bodies. They traded the truth about God for a lie. So they worshiped and served the things God created instead of the Creator himself, who is worthy of eternal praise! Amen.

On today’s show, we’ll continue our conversation with author and pastor Deon Thomas from The King’s Sanctuary in Kingston, Jamaica. He has a new devotional workbook titled, “21 Days to Sexual Purity: A Biblical Devotional For Overcoming Sexual Temptations”.  We’ll discuss the importance of our physical bodies and how using our body – entering into another person emotionally, spiritually and physically is the unique kind of sin that the Apostle Paul is referring to.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. How sexual sin has a degrading effect on the body.
  2. Why lust makes you sluggish, unproductive and angry.
  3. How science and medicine are now confirming Biblical teaching and truths.

Combining our spirituality with our sexuality is not something we tend to think about it, is it? And when we do, it seems to creep us out a bit. But, the reality is this. Our bodies proclaim the good news of the Gospel.  Think about it. Father, Son, and Holy Spirit are in a perfect complementarian style relationship. In other words, each person of the Trinity has equal value but different roles.

In Genesis 1:27 we read,

So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.

Have you ever thought about how your body doesn’t make sense by itself?  Ahh, it’s only when you put male and female  – man and woman – together, to where we see how they complement one another. Not just physically either, but emotionally and spiritually.

There is a tremendous amount of talk today about gender and how it’s not needed. I’ve done many shows on this topic, and I would encourage to jump on the website to listen to them. Here’s my final thought today, if gender is not needed why was Jesus Christ born a man, born of a virgin woman?  I would encourage you to read the gospel of John 1 and research how many pronouns are in that passage, and why.

It’s important to understand God’s theology of the human body. If our bodies were bad or evil as some religious people proclaim, would Jesus Christ have been born? Of course not. In fact, the Apostle Paul tell us that our bodies are so precious that they house the Holy Spirit Himself. That God dwells among us, in our physical bodies, and that’s why when we attach ourselves – when we enter into someone and use them as an object or piece of trash, we defile our body and experience severe consequences.

The Silver Bullet to Sexual Integrity

21 Days To Sexual Purity

The question for today is how do we guard our eyes?


King David writes in Psalm 103:

WEB – I will set no vile thing before my eyes.

NLT – I will refuse to look at anything vile and vulgar.

NIV – I will not look with approval on anything that is vile.

NKJV – I will set nothing wicked before my eyes;

The question for today is how do we guard our eyes? Job writes in Job chapter 31, “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman.”

Now many of you are thinking, “yep, easier said than done.”  Well, that may be true, but it doesn’t mean that its impossible either.  So where do we start with our eyes? Just like everything else, there must be a plan to break this evil habit – there has to be training involved. There must be new godly Holy Spirit filled disciplines created to break old fleshly habits.

The Apostle Paul writes in Romans 8,

Those who are dominated by the sinful nature think about sinful things, but those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit think about things that please the Spirit. So letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace. For the sinful nature is always hostile to God. It never did obey God’s laws, and it never will. That’s why those who are still under the control of their sinful nature can never please God. But you are not controlled by your sinful nature. You are controlled by the Spirit if you have the Spirit of God living in you.

Well, today we continue our conversation with author and pastor Deon Thomas from The King’s Sanctuary in Kingston, Jamaica. He has a new devotional workbook titled, “21 Days to Sexual Purity: A Biblical Devotional For Overcoming Sexual Temptations”.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. The joy of our devotional time with the Lord Jesus Christ.
  2. The opportunities for confession.
  3. Why men choose to hit rock bottom before asking for help.

Pastor Deon mentioned how confessing smaller sins – sins that we consider insignificant –  how that prevents us from hitting rock bottom. He used King David and a woman named Bathsheba as his example. You can read this story in 2 Samuel 11. As you read and as Pastor Deon pointed out, King David had a minimum of four times to confess his smaller sins of lust.  Now think about this, if he would have humbled himself, and confessed his lust, wouldn’t that be the end of it? I think that’s a solid possibility.  But as you read the story, we see what happens, sexual sin grows and manifests itself in many different ways. By the time this whole ordeal is done, David kills Bathsheba’s husband, a baby is dead, and the entire nation of Israel is never the same.

The Apostle James says this in James 1:13,

Then the lust, when it has conceived, bears sin; and the sin, when it is fully grown, produces death.

Yes, my friend, a key to walking in sexual integrity and pursuing sexual sobriety is confessing sin early and confessing sin often, no matter how silly and insignificant you may think it is.  By the way, no sin is trivial.

Staying Sexually Pure

21 Days To Sexual Purity

You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything. You say, “Food was made for the stomach, and the stomach for food.” But you can’t say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies (1 Corinthians 6).


There’s an evil attitude that permeates our culture today. It takes on various forms but goes something like this – “it’s my body, it’s my life, and I can do with it anything that I want.”

This statement is true if you have not accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. However, if you have – if you call yourself a Christian, then scripture is clear about whose body you are using and whose life you are living.

1 Corinthians 6:20—“For God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.”

Jeremiah 10:23—“I know, Lord, that our lives are not our own. We are not able to plan our own course.”

So when it comes to planning our life (aka – plotting and scheming to get our way), we are to be reminded that the Lord cares much more about your life and your body than you ever could. That’s why we’re talking about the importance of waiting to have sex until the honeymoon night today with author and pastor Deon Thomas from The King’s Sanctuary in Kingston, Jamaica. He has a new devotional workbook titled, “21 Days to Sexual Purity: A Biblical Devotional For Overcoming Sexual Temptations”.

He has a great story of being married in his early thirties as a virgin and the blessings that have brought to his life.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. The benefits of waiting to have sex until your married.
  2. How one godly person can change your life forever.
  3. The importance of reading the Bible from cover to cover, over and over.

Pastor Deon referenced Psalm 119, and the psalmist asks a great question –

How can a young person stay pure? By obeying Your Word. I have tried hard to find You—don’t let me wander from Your commands. I have hidden Your Word in my heart, that I might not sin against You. I praise You, O Lord; teach me Your decrees. I have recited aloud all the regulations You have given us. I have rejoiced in Your laws as much as in riches. I will study Your commandments and reflect on Your ways. I will delight in Your decrees and not forget Your Word.

As we read this passage we notice six things:

1. Verse 11—To hide God’s Word in our heart, we must spend time with Him to develop the relationship.

2. Verse 12—To come with an attitude of worship.

3. Verse 13—To read God’s Word out loud.

4. Verse 14—To come with an attitude of thankfulness.

5. Verse15—To think deeply and critically on God’s Word, to meditate, ask questions, challenge, and journal.

6. Verse16—To actually enjoy this time and not to rush through it.

Reading Psalm 119 for forty days in a row would be a huge jump start to sexual sobriety. Keep a journal nearby to write down the things the Lord shows you.

Loving Jesus More Than “These”

21 Days To Sexual Purity

After breakfast, Jesus asked Simon Peter, “Simon son of John, do you love me more than these?” “Yes, Lord,” Peter replied, “you know I love you.” “Then feed my lambs,” Jesus told him.


Jesus repeated the question: “Simon son of John, do you love me?” “Yes, Lord,” Peter said, “you know I love you.”“Then take care of my sheep,” Jesus said. A third time he asked him, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” Peter was hurt that Jesus asked the question a third time. He said, “Lord, you know everything. You know that I love you.” (John 21)

Such a simple, but yet profound question, don’t you think? “Do you love me more than these?”

What exactly is the “these” that Jesus is referring to here? More importantly for our conversation today, what is the “these” in your life?  Do you love Jesus more than…

Well, that’s just one of the things we’ll talk about today with author and pastor Deon Thomas from The King’s Sanctuary in Kingston, Jamaica.  Pastor Deon has written a devotional workbook titled, “21 Days to Sexual Purity: A Biblical Devotional For Overcoming Sexual Temptations”.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. Desire – is a good thing or a bad thing?
  2. Temptation – is it a sin?
  3. Can you love someone and yet deceive them at the same time?

FINAL THOUGHTS:

In Genesis 39 we read the passage of scripture that Pastor Deon mentioned. It’s the story of Joseph, a Jewish slave, and Potiphar, the wife of an Egyptian ruler.

Joseph was a very handsome and well-built young man, and Potiphar’s wife soon began to look at him lustfully. “Come and sleep with me,” she demanded. But Joseph refused. “Look,” he told her, “my master trusts me with everything in his entire household. No one here has more authority than I do. He has held back nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How could I do such a wicked thing? It would be a great sin against God.” She kept putting pressure on Joseph day after day, but he refused to sleep with her, and he kept out of her way as much as possible. One day, however, no one else was around when he went in to do his work. She came and grabbed him by his cloak, demanding, “Come on, sleep with me!” Joseph tore himself away, but he left his cloak in her hand as he ran from the house.

This is a classic text on how to flee from sexual sin. There are so many things to discuss here. For example, I’m hedging my bets that most men would not turn down an opportunity to sleep with a powerful and beautiful woman. However, Joseph did. Was Joseph aware of her flirtatious behavior? Of course. Was he vulnerable to saying yes to her advances? You bet. So why did he turn her down?  Because of his love for God at that moment. His desire to please God was more powerful than satisfying himself. In other words, Joseph loved God more than “these.”

Let me encourage you to get real with God today. Journal out your “these”. Ask the Lord to reveal them to you. Once He does repent, and go sin no more.

Jesus in the gospel of Matthew 6:24 says,

“No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other; you will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and be enslaved to money.” He was talking specifically about money but we can all replace that word with something else. The point is that whatever it is, is still in the way of Jesus.

Learning, Living and Loving Sexual Integrity

21 Days To Sexual Purity

Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6).


It’s been my experience that the subject of sexuality is one of the last things we seem to learn. This idea of understanding desires and sexual integrity and why God has a particular design for it, is crucial to Christina living. However, and tragically, it seems that most of us learn these sexual disciplines very late in life. But, does it have to be this way?

How do we train up a child in the way that he should go? Well, we train children up by teaching them the moral truth that is only found in the Word of God. When we read God’s Word, we hear His voice.

This is something that my guest today is proclaiming from his rooftops in Jamaica. Pastor Deon Thomas has written a devotional workbook titled, “21 Days to Sexual Purity: A Biblical Devotional For Overcoming Sexual Temptations”. It is filled with God’s Word and provides a great structure for addressing sexual integrity.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. How sexual purity doesn’t begin with rules but a relationship with Christ.
  2. Why we don’t have to continue in living in brokenness – living out of our mistakes.
  3. The importance of confession and then moving forward by the grace of God.

FINAL THOUGHTS:

Are you celebrating your improvements in sexual integrity? This begs the question of who then are you celebrating with? This journey toward sexual purity, for many of you it might be sexual sobriety, demands a Christ-centered community.

When I was in the midst of my addiction to porn and sex – this bondage this slavery to all forms of evil – I was so alone. But, as I found out, that’s one of the demonic’s goals – to get you alone and isolated to where all you have is the unholy trinity of me, myself and I.  And guess what? It’s the oldest trick in the book.

In Genesis 3:8,

When the cool evening breezes were blowing, the man and his wife heard the Lord God walking about in the garden. So they hid from the Lord God among the trees. Then the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?” He replied, “I heard you walking in the garden, so I hid. I was afraid because I was naked.”

Well, it was true for Adam and Eve, and it’s true for you and I, isn’t it?  Unfortunately, not much has changed since the fall of mankind. Except for the miracle of miracles – and that is how Jesus Christ has taken your sexual shame and cast it as far as the east is from the west. 

Jesus does a very real thing in our lives – He willingly took the wrath of God upon Himself so that the righteousness of God may fall upon you. He fulfilled God’s law, so you don’t have to. This Christian journey is not about keeping rules, it’s about a relationship with Christ Jesus, to where you fall in love with him, and once you fall in love with Him, you’ll see his rules not something to be broken, but disciplines that draw you close.