How to Respond to Your Son’s Mistakes and Sins

Raising Men Not Boys: Shepherding Your Sons to Be Men of God

King David writes in Psalm 103 – Let all that I am praise the Lord; with my whole heart, I will praise his holy name. Let all that I am praise the Lord; may I never forget the good things he does for me. He forgives all my sins and heals all my diseases.

He redeems me from death and crowns me with love and tender mercies. He fills my life with good things. My youth is renewed like the eagle’s! The Lord gives righteousness and justice to all who are treated unfairly. He revealed his character to Moses and his deeds to the people of Israel. The Lord is compassionate and merciful, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love. He will not constantly accuse us, nor remain angry forever. 10 He does not punish us for all our sins; he does not deal harshly with us, as we deserve. 11 For his unfailing love toward those who fear him is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth. 12 He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west. 13 The Lord is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who fear him. 14 For he knows how weak we are; he remembers we are only dust.


Today we continue our series on how to raise your boys and turn them into godly men. Dr. Mike Fabarez is my guest, and we are discussing his latest book, Raising Men, Not Boys: Shepherding Your Sons To Be Men of God.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

  1. How to take your son’s sin seriously and yet provide hope at the same time.
  2. Learn how to come with sympathy from our past, but yet at the same time not minimize the sin itself.
  3. Final thoughts for parents who think things are to far gone.

 

FINAL THOUGHTS:

Don’t you love those encouraging words from Dr. Mike Fabarez. It’s good to know that we are never too far gone. We may think so, but the Word of the Lord says:

“I have set the Lord always before me. Because he is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.” (Psalm 16:8)

“Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God, trust also in me.” (John 14:1)

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?” (Matt 6:25)

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matt 11:28)

Is Chivalry Dead or Has It Just Taken a Black Eye?

Raising Men Not Boys: Shepherding Your Sons to Be Men of God

The English word chivalry comes from the Old French word chevalerie. Its origin came from medieval times and was the code of conduct required for knights. When we think of chivalry, we think of a man’s courtesy toward a woman.

When it comes to Biblical chivalry, the Apostle Paul tells us in Ephesians 5:21 to “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” While God created men and women equal, He also placed deep within the heart of man a unique desire. A godly willingness to guard and protect women.


Now, that statement will infuriate the women’s liberation movement, but regardless, the reality is that God created men and women equally, but differently.  In other words, men and women have different functions that complement one another. We are not to compete with one another. Part of a man’s duty is demonstrated through chivalry. By holding doors, helping with coats, how about rising when a woman enters—a man makes God smile when he honors female beauty.

Today we continue our series on how to raise your boys and turn them into godly men. Dr. Mike Fabarez is my guest, and we are discussing his latest book, Raising Men, Not Boys: Shepherding Your Sons To Be Men of God.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

  1. The importance of modesty
  2. The physiological nature of the male brain.
  3. Do we as parents have a willingness to answer questions about sexuality

FINAL THOUGHTS:

We do want to keep our sons away from anything that creates a hunger and thirst for the ungodly things of this world. Pornography is one of the most pervasive and evil of those things. So if you and your children do not have a filtering system on your digital devices, I would strongly encourage you to get one installed today.  To not do this, in my opinion, is child abuse. If you need a suggestion, look at Covenant Eyes – and if you use my full name in the promo box, you’ll receive a 30-day free trial.

Why Sex Makes A Lousy god

Raising Men Not Boys: Shepherding Your Sons to Be Men of God

In Exodus 20:3, Moses tells us that, You must not have any other god but me.

Jesus said in Matthew 6:24, No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other; you will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and be enslaved to money.


Jesus is speaking about money there, but His point is that anything that replaces Him will be a miserable existence.  Isn’t that the truth? As someone who served at the altar of sexuality for over 20 years of my life, I learned first hand how slavery works. And that is our topic for today as we continue our series on how to raise your boys and turn them into godly men. Dr. Mike Fabarez is my guest, and we are discussing his latest book, Raising Men, Not Boys: Shepherding Your Sons To Be Men of God.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

  1. Explaining the redefinition of marriage.
  2. Why our kids are getting married later in life.
  3. Does waiting mean perfect rock star sex?

 

FINAL THOUGHTS:

The apostle Paul writes, For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.

The apostle James writes in James 4:4, You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.

Do you find yourself trying to please the world? Are you trying to find some type of medium between what culture teaches about sex and what God does?

The Apostle John writes in 1 John 2:15, Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.

The Dreaded “Sex Talk” With Your Children

Raising Men Not Boys: Shepherding Your Sons to Be Men of God

If you are a parent, you’re aware of the “the dreaded sex talk” with your children, aren’t you? Maybe you’ve already had it and think you’re done. Maybe you just plan to ignore the subject because that’s the way your parent’s handled it. But what does God say about it?

King Solomon writes in Proverbs 22:6, “Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.”


Psalm 78:2 reads, “I will teach you hidden lessons from our past— stories we have heard and known, stories our ancestors handed down to us. We will not hide these truths from our children; we will tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the Lord, about his power and his mighty wonders.”

Today we continue our series on how to raise your boys and turn them into godly men. Dr. Mike Fabarez is my guest, and we are discussing his latest book, Raising Men, Not Boys: Shepherding Your Sons To Be Men of God.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

  1. Why hoping that your children are blissfully ignorant about sex is a bad plan
  2. Why little life lessons on sexuality are important
  3. Why fathers must guide and lead this discussion on sexuality.

FINAL THOUGHTS:

Nothing good happens without self-control and self-denial.  It’s interesting that when you do a word study on self-control in the Bible, anger is usually referenced.

Proverbs 14:29, People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness.

Proverbs 22:24Don’t befriend angry people or associate with hot-tempered people, or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul.

It’s not a coincidence that sexual sin and anger are two sides of the same coin. You can’t have one without the other. The apostle Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 6 that sexual sin is a unique type of sin because we are sinning against our bodies, which house the Holy Spirit of God. And when we use sex as a drug, it inflicts a wretchedness upon our very soul.

The Power of Sexual Desire

Raising Men Not Boys: Shepherding Your Sons to Be Men of God

“Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him. Children born to a young man
are like arrows in a warrior’s hands. How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them!” -Psalm 127:3

Isn’t that a great word from the Lord? Especially in our day and age when the world mocks the idea of large families.


Today we continue our series on how to raise your boys and turn them into godly men. Dr. Mike Fabarez is my guest, and we are discussing his latest book, Raising Men, Not Boys: Shepherding Your Sons To Be Men of God.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

  1. The reality that all of our sexual desires will not be met.
  2. How guilt from our past prevents us from talking about the future.

 

FINAL THOUGHTS:

Are you afraid of being branded a weirdo for saving yourself for marriage? Well, it’s my guess that most men that I talk to regarding their sexual mistakes, if they had to do it all over again, they would joyfully wait until their wedding night.

By the way, why are we so afraid of what other people think? Especially those who have no right to speak into our lives. Have you ever noticed that those who claim sexual liberty are those whose lives are a mess?

The Song of Songs or Solomon writes, not to awaken love until the time is right.

We are not to stir it up or get too close to it. Why? Because it is a beautiful fire that needs to burn in the fireplace, not the closet. What happens if a fire rages in the closet? Your whole house burns down, doesn’t it? That’s why God has designed sex and marriage to be two sides of the same coin. Marriage as defined by God – one biological man and one biological woman – is where sexual desire burns.

In fact, Proverbs 5:19 reads,  Let your wife’s breasts satisfy you always.

Now some of you guys may be thinking…no, way, does it really say that in the Bible? It does! Some of you may have a new life verse! Regardless, I would encourage you to read, study and mediate over Proverbs Chapter 5 yourself.