The Scandal of Grace

The Heart of Man

But if it is by grace, it is no longer on the basis of works; otherwise, grace would no longer be grace (Romans 11:6).

We have been talking to John Lynch of Trueface, all week long, discussing their new movie, “The Heart of Man.” The Heart of Man is based on the Prodigal son, or as I prefer to call that parable “the compassionate father and his two lost sons.” You can read about it in Luke 15.

Today we wrap our conversation about grace. When people first hear this message, they think to themselves, “Wow, I love to sin, and if the Lord loves to forgive because of His grace, then this is a great relationship!”

Well, in this podcast, we talk about how we can’t take advantage of grace because we have a brand new nature – we have a brand new heart that wants to please Him, not take from Him.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. The bad religion of grace.
  2. Is grace a license to continue in my sin?
  3. How important trust is with grace.

Tomorrow we are going to start a brand new series as we jump across the pond to Jamaica to speak with pastor and author Deon Thomas. He is the author of “21 Days to Sexual Purity: A Biblical Devotional For Overcoming Sexual Temptations”.

Free From Shame and Free To Love

The Heart of Man

Since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely… 

…and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God (Hebrews 12:1-2).

The Apostle Paul writes in 2 Corinthians 5:21,

For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.

Shame is THE biggest issue that prevents us from seeing God’s grace in our lives. What we tell ourselves about ourselves really does matter. Most of us don’t realize that we continue to make poor decisions on the most critical events in our lives because of shame. Our unhealthy thought life directly contributes to the weight of our shame.

Ahh, but my guest, John Lynch with Trueface, shares how Jesus Christ has broken the shame barrier on today’s show as we continue discussing their new movie, “The Heart of Man.”

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. The difference between guilt and shame.
  2. How and why you are more than just a “saved sinner.”
  3. How to deal with shame.


The Apostle Paul writes in 2 Corinthians 12:9,

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

Again in Ephesians 2:8-9,

For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.

And yet again in Romans 6:14,

For sin will have no dominion over you, since you are not under law but under grace.

Yes indeed my friend, grace deals once and for all with the power of sin. Grace is not a license to sin, but instead gives us the power to live life free from shame, and once were free from the bondage of shame, we are then free to love.  And that’s exactly what we talk about on tomorrow’s episode of God, Sex and You with  John Lynch of TrueFace.

Learning To Smile Back at God

The Heart of Man

I don’t want to look in a stranger’s eyes. When I come into this place – let me grow familiar with the lines, the lines upon Your face.

One thing is all I will ask You, To feel my heart satisfied. To know You, trust You, love and behold You. Savior, only You are kind

Yesterday felt like it would never end. I couldn’t confess, so I kept on falling. Yeah, I kept on falling. Oh, keep me from falling. I don’t want to look in a stranger’s eyes. When I come into this place. Let me grow familiar with the lines. The lines upon Your face”

Lyrics from the song titled, “I confess” by Tenth Avenue North.

So, how does God see you? What do you think His physical facial expression is? Is he smiling or scouting? Is He pointing His finger at you because you haven’t lived up to His expectations again or are His arms wide open?  Do you have the kind of relationship to see his facial expression? Do you want one?Well, John Lynch with Trueface tells us how as we discuss their new movie, “The Heart of Man.”

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. How does God smile at you? Why?
  2. Why it’s much easier for the church to teach truth and moralism than grace.
  3. Taking the risk of believing that God is holding onto you and you are not holding onto him.


When God gives us the opportunity to see how His gospel message not only changes us, but changes our children, and our children’s children…it is indeed Jesus stuff.

The Psalmist writes in Psalm 22:30 – Our children will also serve him. Future generations will hear about the wonders of the Lord. His righteous acts will be told to those not yet born. They will hear about everything he has done.

Psalm 100:5 –  For the Lord is good; his steadfast love endures forever, and his faithfulness to all generations.

Isn’t that amazing, that God’s love for you is not based on what you do for Him, but rather it’s based on His faithfulness to His character?

Humility or Humiliation

Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual and The Church

God would surely have known it, for He knows the secrets of every heart. – Psalm 44:21

Luke 8:17—“For all that is secret will eventually be brought into the open, and everything that is concealed will be brought to light and made known to all.”

Proverbs 10:9—“People with integrity walk safely, but those who follow crooked paths will be exposed.”

Ephesians 5:11-12—“Take no part in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness; instead, expose them. It is shameful even to talk about the things that ungodly people do in secret.”

Ecclesiastes 12:14—“God will judge us for everything we do, including every secret thing, whether good or bad.”

Hebrews 4:13—“Nothing in all creation is hidden from God. Everything is naked and exposed before His eyes, and He is the one to whom we are accountable.”

Today,  we’ll be wrapping up our conversation with pastor and author, Peter Hubbard, in his book titled, “Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual, and The Church.” I finish up my interview on today’s episode by asking Peter what he thinks is going on with all the cases of sexual abuse – the scandal that is currently plaguing the headlines of news and social media.

On today’s podcast, we’ll discuss:

  1. How we live in a world to where “anything goes”, but at the same time, “not really”.


Isn’t that a great question? How can we help those confused with who they are if we don’t even know our own identity? Who are we as Christians?

The apostle Paul says it this way in Ephesians 4:22-24, “Throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.”

This is where we learn what God says about us and where our true identity comes from. It comes from Him! It is often said that when you read God’s Word, you’re listening to His voice. So, regardless of what you’ve heard or what you’ve told yourself in the past, God says that you are:

  • A new creature in Christ (2 Cor. 5:17);
  • Chosen, holy, and blameless before God (Eph. 1:4);
  • Sealed with the Holy Spirit (Eph. 1:13);
  • Made complete in Christ (Col. 2:10);
  • Justified and redeemed (Rom. 3:24).

Do you believe those words? It’s easy to believe them when things are going well, but not so much when life is in the middle of a tough season isn’t it? Well regardless, that’s why its so important for us as Christians to understand that it’s God who determines our worth, not us, not circumstances, and not other people. It’s God who determines our value, not our feelings.

This is where so many recovery groups miss it. I’m not going to say, Hi, my name is, “Dustin and I’m a sex addict.” I’m going to say, “Hi my name is Dustin, and I’m a child of God, saved by His amazing grace because I was once blind but now I can see.”  Do you see the difference there? Why are we choosing to define ourselves with the worst thing that we’ve ever done? What you tell yourself, what you believe about yourself is crucial. Most of are living out of a shameful past or event. Shame is not that I’ve made a mistake, shame says that I am a mistake. And if you continue to believe that you are a mistake – you’ll never allow God to love you or allow yourself to love others.

Judging Sexual Sin

Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual and The Church

When I wrote to you before, I told you not to associate with people who indulge in sexual sin. 

But I wasn’t talking about unbelievers who indulge in sexual sin, or are greedy, or cheat people, or worship idols. You would have to leave this world to avoid people like that. I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or is a drunkard, or cheats people. Don’t even eat with such people.

 It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. God will judge those on the outside; but as the Scriptures say, “You must remove the evil person from among you.”

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we are discussing a topic that we as the church seem to misunderstand and misapply. The topic is that of judging others. As we just read, scripture tells us that we are to judge those inside the church especially when they are sinning. We are not to judge or apply Biblical principles to unbelievers.

Jesus said in John 14,

“If you love me, obey my commandments… Anyone who doesn’t love me will not obey me. That word “obey” is better translated, “conform”.

On today’s podcast, we’ll discuss:

  1. Why is sexual purity a church family matter and not a private personal decision
  2. How people call themselves Christian, but yet don’t obey the Lord Jesus Christ.
  3. How we limit and minimize the power of God.


Only God has the power to change us in our very core. The 12 steps can’t do it. No recovery plan can do it. Sure some things will change our behavior temporarily, but they don’t have the power to deal with the wickedness that lies deep within our hearts. There is nothing on the planet that has the power to take away sin.  That’s why the cure for our sexual brokenness is supernatural. The cure must transcend human knowledge and existence.

The prophet Ezekiel wrote these words from the Lord God Almighty in Ezekiel 36:26,

“I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart”

Again the Lord writes through the prophet Jeremiah in Jeremiah 24:7,

“I will give them a heart to know that I am the LORD, and they shall be My people and I will be their God, for they shall return to Me with their whole heart”.

Jesus said in the gospel of John 3:3,

“I tell you the truth, unless you are born again, you cannot see the Kingdom of God.”  “What do you mean?” exclaimed Nicodemus. “How can an old man go back into his mother’s womb and be born again?” Jesus replied, “I assure you, no one can enter the Kingdom of God without being born of water and the Spirit. Humans can reproduce only human life, but the Holy Spirit gives birth to spiritual life.  So don’t be surprised when I say, ‘You* must be born again.’ The wind blows wherever it wants. Just as you can hear the wind but can’t tell where it comes from or where it is going, so you can’t explain how people are born of the Spirit.”