The Definition of Love, Hate and Sexual Sin

Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual and The Church

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.

And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing (1 Corinthians 13).

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.

Have you ever had a conversation to where you thought you were talking about the same thing but turned out that you were discussing two separate things from two different perspectives? Well, I think that kind of conversation is happening quite a bit here lately on the topics of homosexuality, love, lust, and hate. For example, the scripture passage I just read on love could mean a variety of different things if we don’t first define what love is.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, I’ll ask Peter Hubbard, pastor and author of Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual and the Church whether or not Believers and non believers are on the same page with the most basic of things – the words and their definitions – as we discuss the subject of homosexuality

On today’s podcast, we’ll discuss:

  1. Why does the world continue to ask about sexuality and sin?
  2. Is calling sin, “sin”, a motivation for hate?
  3. How we must first begin with a definition of love.


So are you culturally or Biblically selective on how you define love, hate, and sexual sin?

Have you ever defined love in your own words?  The apostle John writes in 1 John 4:8, But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love. So that begs the question doesn’t it, can anyone who doesn’t know God, love? Maybe I should ask it this way, can anyone who doesn’t know Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, truly love?

What about hate? Do you hate the things that God hates?

In Proverbs 6:16, King Solomon writes,

There are six things the Lord hates—no, seven things he detests:

haughty eyes, (proud or defiant eyes) a lying tongue, hands that kill the innocent, a heart that plots evil, feet that race to do wrong, a false witness who pours out lies, a person who sows discord in a family.

Again King Solomon writes in Proverbs 8:13, To fear the LORD is to hate evil; I hate pride and arrogance, evil behavior and perverse speech. So the question becomes, do you hate the things that the Lord hates? Or do you tolerate them in your own life because the world is demanding tolerance?

Lastly, how do you define sexual sin? Scripture tells us in Genesis 2:24, Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. So, do you define marriage and sexuality as God does – two sides of the same coin? What about sexual sin – as anything outside this marriage covenant of one man an one woman?

“Those” Homosexuals

Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual and The Church

Once we, too, were foolish and disobedient. We were misled and became slaves to many lusts and pleasures. Our lives were full of evil and envy, and we hated each other.

But—When God our Savior revealed his kindness and love, he saved us, not because of the righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He washed away our sins, giving us a new birth and new life through the Holy Spirit.  He generously poured out the Spirit upon us through Jesus Christ our Savior. Because of his grace, he made us right in his sight and gave us confidence that we will inherit eternal life. This is a trustworthy saying, and I want you to insist on these teachings so that all who trust in God will devote themselves to doing good. These teachings are good and beneficial for everyone (Titus 3:3-8).

Words matter don’t they, especially when it comes to such a tender and controversial topic as homosexuality in our day and age. Today we talk about how the church has responded to this issue. Unfortunately, we as the church have responded poorly.  So, how do we reconcile the past? How do we move forward with the grace and truth that Jesus Christ has so freely given us?

On today’s podcast, we’ll discuss:

  1. How we are all on the same playing field when it comes to sexual sin and brokenness.
  2. How the church casts a false identity on our friends that struggle with SSA and homosexuality.
  3. Why this discussion, not a new discussion – it’s the same as the early church with the Romans and the Greeks. How does this mirror what we are facing now?


So, how do we communicate an ancient message in a very new way? How do we express God’s design for sex marriage and the family to our unbelieving family and friends? How do we do this with grace and truth when there is so much hostility around the topic itself?

Well, my encouragement is to spend time with the Lord, pray through this by reading scripture. Do you believe what God says about sex? Why or why not? What questions are you uncomfortable trying to answer?

The Apostle Paul writes in 1 Timothy 3:16-17

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.

The Uncertainty of Church Leadership on Homosexuality

Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual and The Church

You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you (Isaiah 26:3).

The prophet Isaiah writes in Isiah 43:2,

When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you.

The psalmist writes in Psalm 32:8,

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you.

Reassuring words from scripture as we engage in this messy conversation about homosexuality today. My guest is pastor and author, Peter Hubbard. We are  discussing his book titled, “Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual, and The Church.”  Today’s show is a must listen for church leadership.

On today’s podcast, we’ll discuss:

  1. How fear and uncertainty dictate the topic of homosexuality for church leadership.
  2. Why aren’t our pastors trained?
  3. How does the church’s silence on homosexuality push people away?


Our culture here recently has proved that anyone can be capable of any sexual sin. There are dozens of people who are being accused of sexual misconduct. Too many to list actually, which is quite pathetic. Whether the allegations are true, time will tell.

As I mentioned before, this show is essential, especially for church leaders. Are you uncertain of how to preach and teach on the topic of homosexuality?  Is the uncertainty paralyzing you to where you can’t move forward all though the Lord is directing you too?

Well, my encouragement my friend is to seek out those people and resources to learn more and to be trained. There are plenty of resources on this topic of sexuality, and it is your responsibility as a pastor, priest, minister or lay leader to learn so that you teach and train the next generation.

The psalmist writes in Psalm 71:18,

Now that I’m old and gray, do not abandon O God. Let me proclaim your power to this new generation, your mighty miracles to all who come after me.

Compassion, Affirmation and the Homosexual

Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual and The Church

Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with compassion, tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.

Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful (Colossians 3:12).

Yes, indeed, as Christians we are commanded by God to be compassionate people. But why is the church so uncompassionate toward those who are gay? It seems that we see two different extremes don’t we?  We have churches who welcome and give full license to any lifestyle, and then we have the pendulum that swings to the other side and have people holding signs protesting homosexuality yelling profanities.  It seems in the midst of all this; we forget to look at and to Jesus in all of this by reading scripture. Would Jesus Christ do either of those things? I think not. Jesus is both grace and truth, and that’s how he handled every conversation, perfectly.

Today, we continue our conversation with pastor and author, Peter Hubbard. We are  discussing his book titled, “Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual, and The Church.”

On today’s podcast, we’ll discuss:

  1. What does it mean to be sexually broken?
  2. How is compassion often confused with affirmation?
  3. How does the Church embrace the conversation and the tension within the conversation?

Final Thoughts:

So how do you embrace the tension that surrounds this conversation of homosexuality and gay marriage?  How does your church engage the tension and the uncomfortableness of it all?

Jesus said this about Himself in Luke 7:33-35,

For John the Baptist didn’t spend his time eating bread or drinking wine, and you say, ‘He’s possessed by a demon.’ The Son of Man, (that’s Jesus’ favorite name for Himself) on the other hand, feasts and drinks, and you say, ‘He’s a glutton and a drunkard, and a friend of tax collectors and other sinners!’ But wisdom is shown to be right by the lives of those who follow it.*”

In other words, it doesn’t matter what other people say about you. You’ll never be able to anything right in the world’s eyes if you are following Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. So my encouragement to you is to read the scriptures, listen to the Holy Spirit and know that you know that you know what God says about these very messy topics of abortion, transgender and homosexuality.

A Church History Lesson on Homosexuality

Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual and The Church

Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual and The Church

Today we begin a brand new series. It’s going to be a series that most church people just don’t want to talk about. And the reason that they don’t want to talk about it is that we’ll… they’re not good about talking about it! It’s hard enough trying to find church people to talk about healthy sexuality within marriage, but today we’re going to talk about the Gospel, the homosexual, and the Church. My guest for this series is a pastor and author, Peter Hubbard, and we’ll be discussing his book titled, “Love Into Light.”

On today’s podcast, we’ll discuss:

  1. How God’s message of sexuality is a message full of grace and truth.
  2. How there has always been homosexuality beginning with Genesis 19, but Church history has never affirmed the lifestyle of homosexuality until now.  Why is that?

So the question is why now? Why is our culture fascinated with homosexuality? Our government made same-sex marriage legal in 2015. President Obama celebrated by spraying rainbow colored lights on the White House itself. The culture is obsessed with it. It’s uncool not to be gay at this point from the world’s perspective, but why?

So what does Scripture say about being involved in the world? The Apostle John writes in 1 John 2:15–17 – Do not love this world nor the things it offers you, for when you love the world, you do not have the love of the Father in you. For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father, but are from this world. And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever.

Notice here that John doesn’t tell us to run away from, to hide from these topics and questions with homosexuality, he’s saying don’t fall in love with the world’s perspective on things. In fact, as we look at the life of Jesus within the Gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John, we see Jesus engaging the tough questions of his day as well. He didn’t shy away from adultery, the subject of evil and he indeed addressed the religious people of His day.