Why Your Story Is Your Glory

Love Is Patient, But I'm Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist

Many of us know that story – it’s the story of The Fall. It’s how sin entered into mankind. Today, we’ll take a look at this story through the lens of God’s love – the freedom in love – in the midst of Adam and Eve committing the first sin.


Genesis 3 reads,
Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made.
He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?”  And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat of the fruit of the trees in the garden,  but God said, ‘You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the midst of the garden, neither shall you touch it, lest you die.’”  But the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die.  For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”  So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate.

My guest is Christopher West, a best selling author, speaker, teacher and world-renowned expert on John Paul II’s “Theology of the Body”. Todays’ interview comes from Christopher with his new book titled, “Love Is Patient, But I’m Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist”.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. Love respects the freedom of others.
  2. How do we respect someone’s freedom wrongly?
  3. Being educated in the proper use of freedom

FINAL THOUGHTS:

The Apostle John writes in 1 John 4:7-18:

Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God.  But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him.  This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.

Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us.

 And God has given us his Spirit as proof that we live in him and he in us. Furthermore, we have seen with our own eyes and now testify that the Father sent his Son to be the Savior of the world.  All who declare that Jesus is the Son of God have God living in them, and they live in God.  We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in his love.

God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them.  And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world.

Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.  We love each other because he loved us first.

So friend, are you learning how to love the way God loves you.  Remember our definition of love from yesterday? Love is A loyalty and fidelity that propels us to action for the good of others—no matter the cost to me.

When we start to catch a glimpse of that kind of love, oh my goodness, you’ll start to see people the way God does.

We’ll, tomorrow, we’ll continue our conversation with Christopher West and his new book “Love Is Patient, But I’m Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist.”  We’ll hear a great story of Christopher, a cab driver and the number of wives each has.

Addicted to Love

Love Is Patient, But I'm Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist

If you and I were having a cup of coffee and I gave you 60 seconds to write a definition of love, what do you think you would come up with?


Would it list a bunch of emotions and feelings? Would it focus on you or other people? Love is a subject to where all peoples in all tongues since the beginning of time has been infatuated with. In our culture, we are fascinated and addicted to it. Doesn’t this obsession show us the eternal need for something we don’t understand? And because we don’t understand it we mislabel, misuse, abuse and call it things that it is not.

Well, today we are going to look at scripture to give us a definition of love. My guest is Christopher West, a best selling author, speaker, teacher and world-renowned expert on John Paul II’s “Theology of the Body”. This week we get to see a personal side of Christopher with his new book titled, “Love Is Patient, But I’m Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist”.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. Defining love vs describing love.
  2. The difference between love and lust.
  3. How the movie Toy Story 3 has profound truths that are not to be toyed with.

FINAL THOUGHTS

Jesus said in the gospel of John 15:13, “Love each other in the same way I have loved you.  There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

John 3:16, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”

The Apostle Paul writes in Colossians 3:14, “And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.”

The Apostle John writes in 1 John 4:18, “We love because he first loved us.” And again in 1 John 4:8, Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.”

As we search the scriptures on love, we’ll see over and over again that love is a sacrifice. If there is no sacrifice, is it really love?

Here’s my personal definition of love: A loyalty and fidelity that propels us to action for the good of others—no matter the cost to me.

We’ll, tomorrow, we’ll continue our conversation with Christopher West and his new book “Love Is Patient, But I’m Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist”.  We’ll hear a great example and story of how love is not rude and doesn’t get it’s own way.

The Unlovable Lie

Love Is Patient, But I'm Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist

There is a lie that, dare I say, all of us believe at some time and at some level in our lives. And the lie is this…


…if you really knew who I was, if you really knew what goes through my head, if you really knew my thoughts and my heart, you wouldn’t love me.

This lie is called shame, and as Christians, we are very good at hiding our shame through hyperactivity and busyness. We’re always trying to prove who we are instead of believing and trusting what God says about us in His Word.

Well, today we are going to talk about this lie of being unlovable. My guest is Christopher West, a best selling author, speaker, teacher and world-renowned expert on John Paul II’s “Theology of the Body”. This week we get to see a personal side of Christopher with his new book titled, “Love Is Patient, But I’m Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist”.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. How to accept grace
  2. Seeing vs. becoming one who sees

FINAL THOUGHTS:

Christopher said something that I want to touch on, “We can bear any hardship if we have the motive of love.”  When Christopher said this, Hebrews 12 came to mind:

Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the Founder and Perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.

This joy is a joy that Jesus would later have after His work was done. It’s delayed gratification. It’s the same joy that He had with His Father before They created the world and everything in it.

Jesus speaks of this joy in John 17:4-5, “I brought glory to you here on earth by completing the work You gave Me to do. Now, Father, bring Me into the glory We shared before the world began.”

Jesus is speaking of that joy when He personally exchanged our shame for His death and resurrection. Yes, indeed, we really can bear any hardship if we have the motive of love, and the Lord Jesus Christ exhibits this for us.

Tomorrow, we’ll continue our conversation with Christopher West and his new book “Love Is Patient, But I’m Not: Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist”.  We’ll define and describe what Biblical love is from 1 Corinthians 13.

The Gay Christian Identity: Born This Way

The Gay Christian Identity: What It Is and How To Respond

Are people born gay?


Today, we wrap up our series titled, “The Gay Christian Identity: What It Is and How To Respond.” My guest is Joe Dallas, and our conversation is taken from that webinar series of the same name. Joe is also a conference speaker and ordained pastoral counselor. He’s the Program Director of Genesis Biblical Counseling, which is a counseling ministry for men dealing with sexual addiction and other sexual/relational problems. 

Today, we discuss homosexuality from several different perspectives. The first deals with homosexuality hitting home with a child admitting or thinking that they are gay. And the second aspect is that from a physiological nature – are people born gay?

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. The difference in your children being minors and gay
  2. Why homosexuality is not chosen, but discovered.
  3. Debunking the “born this way” lie.

Final Thoughts:

I would encourage you to keep pressing on this topic of homosexuality and the resources that Joe Dallas has are wonderful. 

Don’t forget about his webinar this Saturday, February 3 at 10 am PST.  It’s from The Gay Christian Identity: What It Is and How To Respond series. He’ll be discussing marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin.

Jesus and the Homosexual

The Gay Christian Identity: What It Is and How To Respond

What did Jesus actually say about homosexuality?


Today, we continue with our series titled, “The Gay Christian Identity: What It Is and How To Respond.” My guest is Joe Dallas and our conversation is taken from his webinar series. Joe is also a conference speaker and ordained pastoral counselor. He’s the Program Director of Genesis Biblical Counseling, which is a counseling ministry for men dealing with sexual addiction and other sexual/relational problems. 

Today we dive into the words of Jesus. Did Jesus ever say anything about homosexuality? Why or why not? Why does it matter?  Well, let’s find out!

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. Is the Bible your ultimate authority for life?
  2. Have we replaced doctrine for entertainment?
  3. Why reform must happen before revival.

Final Thoughts:

I want to read the passage that Joe just quoted. It comes from John 15:18-25:

“If the world hates you, remember that it hated me first.  The world would love you as one of its own if you belonged to it, but you are no longer part of the world. I chose you to come out of the world, so it hates you.  Do you remember what I told you? ‘A slave is not greater than the master.’ Since they persecuted me, naturally they will persecute you. And if they had listened to me, they would listen to you.  They will do all this to you because of me, for they have rejected the one who sent me. They would not be guilty if I had not come and spoken to them. But now they have no excuse for their sin.  Anyone who hates me also hates my Father.  If I hadn’t done such miraculous signs among them that no one else could do, they would not be guilty. But as it is, they have seen everything I did, yet they still hate me and my Father.  This fulfills what is written in their Scriptures: ‘They hated me without cause.’

Let’s remember friend, that Jesus was murdered because He didn’t just speak truth; He is truth. If you take a stand for Biblical sexuality and traditional marriage, the world will hate you. You can bank on that, but remember the words of Jesus – Since they persecuted me, naturally they will persecute you.

I would encourage you to visit www.JoeDallas.com and sign up for his webinar coming up on Saturday, February 3.  It’s from The Gay Christian Identity: What It Is and How To Respond series. He’ll be discussing Marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin.

Tomorrow we’ll continue our conversation with Joe Dallas as we ask the question, “My child just told me that they’re gay, now what?