Should I Stay Or Go? (My Invite To A Same-Sex Wedding)

The Gay Christian Identity: What It Is and How To Respond

Should I Stay Or Go? (My Invite To A Same-Sex Wedding)


Today, we start a brand new series. It’s called, “The Gay Christian Identity: What It Is and How To Respond.” My guest is Joe Dallas. If that name sounds familiar to you, and I pray it does, you may remember Joe’s interview several years ago in his book – “The Gay Gospel? How Pro-Gay Advocates Misread The Bible”. Joe has also authored several other books like, “The Complete Christian Guide To Understanding Homosexuality” When Homosexuality Hits Home and Speaking of Homosexuality.

Joe is also a conference speaker and ordained pastoral counselor. He’s the Program Director of Genesis Biblical Counseling, which is a counseling ministry for men dealing with sexual addiction and other sexual/relational problems. 

So let’s dive right in with my interview with Joe Dallas and discuss the most pressing questions that our culture has about homosexuality.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. Should I attend a same-sex wedding?
  2. How and why Joe’s position on gay marriage has changed.
  3. Can a homosexual really change?

Final Thoughts:

I love listening to Joe Dallas, and here’s why – there are some Christian leaders who can discuss (in love) homosexuality, and there are other Christian leaders who can debate it in truth.

But Joe (and this is so important to understand) has an authority on the subject of homosexuality that very few people have. He has something that most Christian leaders desperately need, and that is conviction.  When Joe speaks, you can hear the sincerity in his voice and the Holy Spirit love that is in his heart. He knows, that he knows, that he knows – that what he says is God’s truth.  Why?  Because he lived it. He experienced both the pain of the homosexual lie and the truth of God’s grace. 

Jesus says this in Matthew 7:24-29

 “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and acts on them will be like a wise man who built his house on rock.  The rain fell, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on rock.  And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not act on them will be like a foolish man who built his house on sand.  The rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell—and great was its fall!” Now when Jesus had finished saying these things, the crowds were astounded at his teaching,  for he taught them as one having authority, and not as their scribes.

People who heard Jesus knew that he was different. He had authority and conviction.

Are you a Christian who is not convicted that what the Word of God has to say about homosexuality is truly true because of our culture?  Well, I would encourage you to visit www.JoeDallas.com and order some books and sign up for this webinar coming up on Saturday, February 3.

God Doesn’t Blush

21 Days To Sexual Purity

If you had just one thing that contributed to staying sexual sober, what would that be?


On today’s show, we’ll wrap up our conversation with author and pastor Deon Thomas from The King’s Sanctuary in Kingston, Jamaica. We have been discussing his devotional workbook titled, “21 Days to Sexual Purity: A Biblical Devotional For Overcoming Sexual Temptations”.

Today’s show is on the importance of prayer. You’ve heard me say many times that when you read God’s Word, you’re listening to his voice and prayer is an extension of that time.

I was once asked during one of my workshops, “If you had just one thing that contributed to staying sexual sober, what would that be?” My answer was and is immediate. It’s prayer. God changes you from the inside out when you spend time with Him by reading His Word over and over from cover to cover.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. The importance of prayer
  2. How do we pray not to fall into temptation
  3. Prayer techniques for those of us who struggle with prayer

Final Thoughts:

Are you celebrating your little victories as you walk in purity? Things that you might not find as significant – like praying for help when tempted, instead of yielding to the temptation. Or maybe it’s reaching out to your purity partner via text asking for prayer.

These things may seem insignificant, but they are not! You’re implementing godly disciplines instead of doing the same old thing that you’ve always done. The Apostle Paul says it this way in Ephesians 4:17-24

With the Lord’s authority, I say this: Live no longer as the Gentiles do, for they are hopelessly confused.  Their minds are full of darkness; they wander far from the life God gives because they have closed their minds and hardened their hearts against him.  They have no sense of shame. They live for lustful pleasure and eagerly practice every kind of impurityut that isn’t what you learned about Christ.  Since you have heard about Jesus and have learned the truth that comes from him, throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception.  Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.

Did you know that the average born-again Christian spends more time in one evening watching television, surfing the Internet or playing video games than an entire week reading the Bible?  What’s my point? Well, just a little common sense, and observation, you’ll never truly be righteous and holy by watching “Dancing With The Stars.”

What’cha think?

The Beauty of Our Bodies

21 Days To Sexual Purity

Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body (1 Corinthians  6:18).


Again Paul writes in Romans 1:24

So God abandoned them to do whatever shameful things their hearts desired. As a result, they did vile and degrading things with each other’s bodies. They traded the truth about God for a lie. So they worshiped and served the things God created instead of the Creator himself, who is worthy of eternal praise! Amen.

On today’s show, we’ll continue our conversation with author and pastor Deon Thomas from The King’s Sanctuary in Kingston, Jamaica. He has a new devotional workbook titled, “21 Days to Sexual Purity: A Biblical Devotional For Overcoming Sexual Temptations”.  We’ll discuss the importance of our physical bodies and how using our body – entering into another person emotionally, spiritually and physically is the unique kind of sin that the Apostle Paul is referring to.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. How sexual sin has a degrading effect on the body.
  2. Why lust makes you sluggish, unproductive and angry.
  3. How science and medicine are now confirming Biblical teaching and truths.

Combining our spirituality with our sexuality is not something we tend to think about it, is it? And when we do, it seems to creep us out a bit. But, the reality is this. Our bodies proclaim the good news of the Gospel.  Think about it. Father, Son, and Holy Spirit are in a perfect complementarian style relationship. In other words, each person of the Trinity has equal value but different roles.

In Genesis 1:27 we read,

So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.

Have you ever thought about how your body doesn’t make sense by itself?  Ahh, it’s only when you put male and female  – man and woman – together, to where we see how they complement one another. Not just physically either, but emotionally and spiritually.

There is a tremendous amount of talk today about gender and how it’s not needed. I’ve done many shows on this topic, and I would encourage to jump on the website to listen to them. Here’s my final thought today, if gender is not needed why was Jesus Christ born a man, born of a virgin woman?  I would encourage you to read the gospel of John 1 and research how many pronouns are in that passage, and why.

It’s important to understand God’s theology of the human body. If our bodies were bad or evil as some religious people proclaim, would Jesus Christ have been born? Of course not. In fact, the Apostle Paul tell us that our bodies are so precious that they house the Holy Spirit Himself. That God dwells among us, in our physical bodies, and that’s why when we attach ourselves – when we enter into someone and use them as an object or piece of trash, we defile our body and experience severe consequences.

The Silver Bullet to Sexual Integrity

21 Days To Sexual Purity

The question for today is how do we guard our eyes?


King David writes in Psalm 103:

WEB – I will set no vile thing before my eyes.

NLT – I will refuse to look at anything vile and vulgar.

NIV – I will not look with approval on anything that is vile.

NKJV – I will set nothing wicked before my eyes;

The question for today is how do we guard our eyes? Job writes in Job chapter 31, “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman.”

Now many of you are thinking, “yep, easier said than done.”  Well, that may be true, but it doesn’t mean that its impossible either.  So where do we start with our eyes? Just like everything else, there must be a plan to break this evil habit – there has to be training involved. There must be new godly Holy Spirit filled disciplines created to break old fleshly habits.

The Apostle Paul writes in Romans 8,

Those who are dominated by the sinful nature think about sinful things, but those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit think about things that please the Spirit. So letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace. For the sinful nature is always hostile to God. It never did obey God’s laws, and it never will. That’s why those who are still under the control of their sinful nature can never please God. But you are not controlled by your sinful nature. You are controlled by the Spirit if you have the Spirit of God living in you.

Well, today we continue our conversation with author and pastor Deon Thomas from The King’s Sanctuary in Kingston, Jamaica. He has a new devotional workbook titled, “21 Days to Sexual Purity: A Biblical Devotional For Overcoming Sexual Temptations”.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. The joy of our devotional time with the Lord Jesus Christ.
  2. The opportunities for confession.
  3. Why men choose to hit rock bottom before asking for help.

Pastor Deon mentioned how confessing smaller sins – sins that we consider insignificant –  how that prevents us from hitting rock bottom. He used King David and a woman named Bathsheba as his example. You can read this story in 2 Samuel 11. As you read and as Pastor Deon pointed out, King David had a minimum of four times to confess his smaller sins of lust.  Now think about this, if he would have humbled himself, and confessed his lust, wouldn’t that be the end of it? I think that’s a solid possibility.  But as you read the story, we see what happens, sexual sin grows and manifests itself in many different ways. By the time this whole ordeal is done, David kills Bathsheba’s husband, a baby is dead, and the entire nation of Israel is never the same.

The Apostle James says this in James 1:13,

Then the lust, when it has conceived, bears sin; and the sin, when it is fully grown, produces death.

Yes, my friend, a key to walking in sexual integrity and pursuing sexual sobriety is confessing sin early and confessing sin often, no matter how silly and insignificant you may think it is.  By the way, no sin is trivial.

Staying Sexually Pure

21 Days To Sexual Purity

You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything. You say, “Food was made for the stomach, and the stomach for food.” But you can’t say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies (1 Corinthians 6).


There’s an evil attitude that permeates our culture today. It takes on various forms but goes something like this – “it’s my body, it’s my life, and I can do with it anything that I want.”

This statement is true if you have not accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. However, if you have – if you call yourself a Christian, then scripture is clear about whose body you are using and whose life you are living.

1 Corinthians 6:20—“For God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.”

Jeremiah 10:23—“I know, Lord, that our lives are not our own. We are not able to plan our own course.”

So when it comes to planning our life (aka – plotting and scheming to get our way), we are to be reminded that the Lord cares much more about your life and your body than you ever could. That’s why we’re talking about the importance of waiting to have sex until the honeymoon night today with author and pastor Deon Thomas from The King’s Sanctuary in Kingston, Jamaica. He has a new devotional workbook titled, “21 Days to Sexual Purity: A Biblical Devotional For Overcoming Sexual Temptations”.

He has a great story of being married in his early thirties as a virgin and the blessings that have brought to his life.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, we’ll discuss:

  1. The benefits of waiting to have sex until your married.
  2. How one godly person can change your life forever.
  3. The importance of reading the Bible from cover to cover, over and over.

Pastor Deon referenced Psalm 119, and the psalmist asks a great question –

How can a young person stay pure? By obeying Your Word. I have tried hard to find You—don’t let me wander from Your commands. I have hidden Your Word in my heart, that I might not sin against You. I praise You, O Lord; teach me Your decrees. I have recited aloud all the regulations You have given us. I have rejoiced in Your laws as much as in riches. I will study Your commandments and reflect on Your ways. I will delight in Your decrees and not forget Your Word.

As we read this passage we notice six things:

1. Verse 11—To hide God’s Word in our heart, we must spend time with Him to develop the relationship.

2. Verse 12—To come with an attitude of worship.

3. Verse 13—To read God’s Word out loud.

4. Verse 14—To come with an attitude of thankfulness.

5. Verse15—To think deeply and critically on God’s Word, to meditate, ask questions, challenge, and journal.

6. Verse16—To actually enjoy this time and not to rush through it.

Reading Psalm 119 for forty days in a row would be a huge jump start to sexual sobriety. Keep a journal nearby to write down the things the Lord shows you.