The Definition of Love, Hate and Sexual Sin

Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual and The Church

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.

And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing (1 Corinthians 13).

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.

Have you ever had a conversation to where you thought you were talking about the same thing but turned out that you were discussing two separate things from two different perspectives? Well, I think that kind of conversation is happening quite a bit here lately on the topics of homosexuality, love, lust, and hate. For example, the scripture passage I just read on love could mean a variety of different things if we don’t first define what love is.

On today’s episode of God, Sex and You, I’ll ask Peter Hubbard, pastor and author of Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual and the Church whether or not Believers and non believers are on the same page with the most basic of things – the words and their definitions – as we discuss the subject of homosexuality

On today’s podcast, we’ll discuss:

  1. Why does the world continue to ask about sexuality and sin?
  2. Is calling sin, “sin”, a motivation for hate?
  3. How we must first begin with a definition of love.


So are you culturally or Biblically selective on how you define love, hate, and sexual sin?

Have you ever defined love in your own words?  The apostle John writes in 1 John 4:8, But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love. So that begs the question doesn’t it, can anyone who doesn’t know God, love? Maybe I should ask it this way, can anyone who doesn’t know Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, truly love?

What about hate? Do you hate the things that God hates?

In Proverbs 6:16, King Solomon writes,

There are six things the Lord hates—no, seven things he detests:

haughty eyes, (proud or defiant eyes) a lying tongue, hands that kill the innocent, a heart that plots evil, feet that race to do wrong, a false witness who pours out lies, a person who sows discord in a family.

Again King Solomon writes in Proverbs 8:13, To fear the LORD is to hate evil; I hate pride and arrogance, evil behavior and perverse speech. So the question becomes, do you hate the things that the Lord hates? Or do you tolerate them in your own life because the world is demanding tolerance?

Lastly, how do you define sexual sin? Scripture tells us in Genesis 2:24, Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. So, do you define marriage and sexuality as God does – two sides of the same coin? What about sexual sin – as anything outside this marriage covenant of one man an one woman?

“Those” Homosexuals

Love Into Light: The Gospel, The Homosexual and The Church

Once we, too, were foolish and disobedient. We were misled and became slaves to many lusts and pleasures. Our lives were full of evil and envy, and we hated each other.

But—When God our Savior revealed his kindness and love, he saved us, not because of the righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He washed away our sins, giving us a new birth and new life through the Holy Spirit.  He generously poured out the Spirit upon us through Jesus Christ our Savior. Because of his grace, he made us right in his sight and gave us confidence that we will inherit eternal life. This is a trustworthy saying, and I want you to insist on these teachings so that all who trust in God will devote themselves to doing good. These teachings are good and beneficial for everyone (Titus 3:3-8).

Words matter don’t they, especially when it comes to such a tender and controversial topic as homosexuality in our day and age. Today we talk about how the church has responded to this issue. Unfortunately, we as the church have responded poorly.  So, how do we reconcile the past? How do we move forward with the grace and truth that Jesus Christ has so freely given us?

On today’s podcast, we’ll discuss:

  1. How we are all on the same playing field when it comes to sexual sin and brokenness.
  2. How the church casts a false identity on our friends that struggle with SSA and homosexuality.
  3. Why this discussion, not a new discussion – it’s the same as the early church with the Romans and the Greeks. How does this mirror what we are facing now?


So, how do we communicate an ancient message in a very new way? How do we express God’s design for sex marriage and the family to our unbelieving family and friends? How do we do this with grace and truth when there is so much hostility around the topic itself?

Well, my encouragement is to spend time with the Lord, pray through this by reading scripture. Do you believe what God says about sex? Why or why not? What questions are you uncomfortable trying to answer?

The Apostle Paul writes in 1 Timothy 3:16-17

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.

Fighting the Demand of Sex Trafficking

Behind The Scenes of Sex Trafficking

We have been having a tough conversation over the past few days with Susan Stacey, the founder, and director of The Fountain of Hope Ministries located in Phoenix, AZ. Susan ministers to the victims of prostitution and those caught in the sex trafficking industry.

As we wrap this series up, we obviously know that pornography doesn’t lead all men into prostitution. But if we stop there, we miss the heart of the real problem, and that is women are not sex objects. Women are made in the image of God and are the pinnacle of His creation.

As Christian men, we need to hear this loud and clear. We are to protect them, not abuse them. If you need examples of how a perfect man treated women, read the Gospel of John 4 and 8.

I also would like to mention a resource from our friends at Covenant Eyes; it’s a pamphlet called “Stop The Demand: The Role of Porn in Sex Trafficking”. You can visit for more information.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

  1. What does it look like to be a first responder in this area of sex trafficking?
  2. Learn why it’s going to take more than listening to a three-point sermon to fix this problem.
  3. How God broke my heart while I was visiting Susan’s ministry one day.

Gentlemen, did you catch Susan’s prayer for you. She said that she wants you to know that if you are involved in pornography or other forms of sexual sin, that nothing is too hard for the Lord.

Then the Lord said to Abraham, “Why did Sarah laugh? Why did she say, ‘Can an old woman like me have a baby?’ 14 Is anything too hard for the Lord?

Then the Lord said to Moses, “Has my arm lost its power? Now you will see whether or not my word comes true!”

The prophet Jeremiah writes, “O Sovereign Lord! You made the heavens and earth by your strong hand and powerful arm. Nothing is too hard for you!

Jesus looked at the disciples intently and said, “Humanly speaking, it is impossible. But with God everything is possible.”

So, do you believe that? That with God everything is possible? Why not? Is it because you’re alone? You don’t have to be my friend. That’s why this podcast exists, the resources on the website along with the book and workbooks.


The Real Victims of Pornography

Behind The Scenes of Sex Trafficking

Laura Lederer, the former Senior Advisor on Trafficking in Persons for the U.S. State Department, says, “Pornography is a brilliant social marketing campaign for commercial sexual exploitation. A key ingredient to the success of commercial sex is the belief that people (especially women) are sexual commodities, and Internet pornography is the ideal vehicle to teach and train this belief.”

Yesterday we discussed how porn was linked to sex trafficking and in today’s podcast, we continue our conversation with Susan Stacey, the founder, and director of The Fountain of Hope Ministries. The Fountain is a refuge for women who are caught in the sex trafficking industry.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

  1. How porn fuels sex trafficking.
  2. How victims of prostitution lose everything, including their identity.
  3. How pornography and sex trafficking are such a disconnect between church leaders.

I don’t know about you, but I find it heartbreaking and gut-wrenching that these women who are victims of prostitution don’t know what a decent man looks like, let alone a father figure. Did you know that the word “father” is used 460 times just in the New Testament.

For example, the Apostle Paul writes in Galatians 4:4-7, But when the right time came, God sent his Son, born of a woman, subject to the law. God sent him to buy freedom for us who were slaves to the law so that he could adopt us as his very own children. And because we are his children, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, prompting us to call out, “Abba, Father.” Now you are no longer a slave but God’s own child. And since you are his child, God has made you his heir.

Maybe this is a perfect time, as a reminder, to thank God as our Heavenly Father. That through His Son, Jesus Christ, we have been reconciled to Him through the cross, we are forgiven and free. And if that wasn’t good enough, we are now adopted sons and daughters of the King of all Kings.

I would encourage you to thank God for that right now and also to pray for those caught in the sex trafficking industry. Pray that these young women will indeed hear the Gospel and meet the man they’ve been looking for all their life – Jesus Christ. A man who would never abuse them because He is indeed a good, good Father.

Tomorrow we continue our conversation with Susan Stacey and learn why it will take more than a three-point sermon to address this issue in our Churches.

The Face of Prostitution

Behind The Scenes of Sex Trafficking

“The Lord now chose seventy-two other disciples and sent them ahead in pairs to all the towns and places he planned to visit.  These were his instructions to them: “The harvest is great, but the workers are few. So pray to the Lord who is in charge of the harvest; ask him to send more workers into his fields.  Now go, and remember that I am sending you out as lambs among wolves.”

We start off our show today with Luke 10:1-3 because we continue our conversation with Susan Stacey, the founder, and director of The Fountain of Hope in Phx, AZ. She ministers to those trapped in the sex trafficking industry. This is an eye-opening show to the reality of how women – who are made in the image of God – are being treated. Susan also briefly explains the business side of the industry and uses several terms that may not be suitable for young ears.

On today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

  1. Learn how to minister to those who are sex trafficked.
  2. Who are these women? How old, where did they come from, why are they doing this?
  3. What happens when you give a victim of prostitution a small gift?

“They just can’t get out.” Does that picture of a prostitute change your mind? That these women are 13-17-year-old girls and that they are literally trying to survive.

Did you know that sex trafficking is the second largest form of organized crime in the world? What’s the first you ask? It’s the sale of drugs. But see here’s the thing, sex and drugs go together, don’t they? Just like alcohol and sex. In fact, sex seems to go with about anything. And that’s the reason we are talking about this today. “Johns” can be anyone. “Johns” are everywhere. Sexual sin crosses all demographics and races. It doesn’t matter if you are white collar, blue collar or no collar, the exploitation of these women impacts us all.

Now maybe your thinking to yourself, Dustin…just wait a minute. I listen to this show because yes, I want to learn how to be a godly man. But I would never hire a prostitute. Well, Victor Malarek says this in his book “The Johns”. He says, “if prostitution is the main act, porn is the dress rehearsal.” In other words, if you don’t stop viewing pornography, it’s only a matter of time.

The Apostle James writes in James 1:14-15, Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. 15 These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.