My Statement Regarding Marriage, Gender and Sexuality

I believe that God wonderfully, unapologetically and immutably creates each person as male or female. These two distinct, complementary genders together reflect the image and nature of God as described in Genesis 1:26-27. I believe the rejection of one’s biological sex is a rejection of the image of God within that person.

I believe that the term marriage has only one meaning: the uniting of one biological man and one biological woman in a single, exclusive union, as precisely described in Genesis 2:18-25. I believe that God intends sexual intimacy to occur only between one biological man and one biological woman who are married to each other (Hebrews 13:4). I believe that God has commanded that no intimate sexual activity be engaged in outside of a marriage between one biological man and one biological woman (Matthew 19:4-6).

I believe that any form of sexual immorality (including but not limited to: fantasy, pornography, masturbation, adultery, fornication, homosexual & bisexual activity, incest, etc.) is sin. Sexual sin is defined as any sexual activity (fantasy or behavioral) outside the covenant of marriage between one biological man and one biological woman (Ephesians 5:3).

I believe that God offers redemption and restoration to all who confess and forsake their (sexual) sin, seeking His mercy and forgiveness through Jesus Christ (Acts 3:19-21; Romans 10:9-10).

I believe that every person must be afforded compassion, love, kindness, respect and dignity regardless of their own personal view on marriage, gender and sexuality (Mark 12:28-31; Luke 6:27-36). I believe that hateful and harassing behavior or attitudes directed toward any individual are to be repudiated and are not in accord with Scripture.

I believe that marriage is not first and foremost about romance and sex. Marriage was never intended to make us happy. Marriage is to make us holy through the testing, trials and temptations of this Earthly life. It’s through the relationship of marriage where we find true joy, not just temporary happiness based on romantic emotion.

I believe that Biblical marriages are a mystery (Ephesians 5:25-32) and that Earthly marriages reflect the spiritual reality that Jesus Christ is coming back as the Lord of Lords, King of Kings and the Groom of Grooms (Revelation 19:6-9) for the sole purpose of spending eternity with His bride – the Church (Revelation 21:3).

I believe that the covenant of marriage is fundamental to the human race and was established before any city was ever built or any nation ever formed (Genesis 2:24). Therefore, marriage is immutable and cannot be changed or tampered with regardless of human authority.

God intended that we find romance in and through marriage, not before it and not outside of it.

In our culture, we have allowed romance to define the marriage (rather than marriage defining romance). From a historical standpoint it’s a fairly new idea that started in 19th century. The problem with romance is that it’s overly emotional. Emotions were never designed to carry the full weight of the marriage. We tend to believe that the more intense the romance (aka: the better the sex) the better the marriage. The problem, however, is that once there is a disruption to the intensity of the romance, the foundation of the marriage is weakened.

What strengthens a marriage is the communication, the dialogue, the working out between husband and wife. We are to develop and sacrificially give to the marriage through grace and forgiveness.

It’s sacrifice that makes a marriage strong, not sex.

It’s in and through this sacrifice that we will receive the joy and happiness that we long for. In other words, romance is not fundamental to marriage. What is fundamental is the covenant between husband, wife and witnessed by God:

to have and to hold
from this day forward,
for better, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
until we are parted by death.